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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 428958" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>In a single word, social "awkwardness" is the difference.</p><p></p><p>My Dad, at age 78, is actually very popular. He managed to learn the basics of social pleasantries, even to the point of constantly inviting ppl to his house. The drop dead, no doubt about it, Oh Yeah, he's an Aspie behavior is that once the guests are in the living room, his wife is in the kitchen preparing food, his latest video/DVD is playing on the TV (he's the photo/video guy for the community), he goes in to the adjoining room and reads the paper. If the guests start asking too many questions about the video, he'll come out, tell them they've seen enough of that one, put in another one, and go back to his paper. This drives his current wife NUTS! She feels she then has get the food ready AND entertain. I have repeatedly told her to stop fretting that all his old friends know this about him and accept it. But she argues, these are NEW ppl he just met, and what will they think? What will they say? I ask her Who cares? If they don't like it, they'll never come back. "New" ppl they tell may decide not to accept an invite. This equals less work and stress for her. But, she continues, they'll talk to everyone in the community. So? Anyone who knows him will just say Yup, that sounds about right, did you enjoy his videos? Isn't she a great cook? by the way neither of them knows he's an ASPIE. They don't know his grandson is an ASPIE either. They just know that the two are alike in many many ways. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 428958, member: 11965"] In a single word, social "awkwardness" is the difference. My Dad, at age 78, is actually very popular. He managed to learn the basics of social pleasantries, even to the point of constantly inviting ppl to his house. The drop dead, no doubt about it, Oh Yeah, he's an Aspie behavior is that once the guests are in the living room, his wife is in the kitchen preparing food, his latest video/DVD is playing on the TV (he's the photo/video guy for the community), he goes in to the adjoining room and reads the paper. If the guests start asking too many questions about the video, he'll come out, tell them they've seen enough of that one, put in another one, and go back to his paper. This drives his current wife NUTS! She feels she then has get the food ready AND entertain. I have repeatedly told her to stop fretting that all his old friends know this about him and accept it. But she argues, these are NEW ppl he just met, and what will they think? What will they say? I ask her Who cares? If they don't like it, they'll never come back. "New" ppl they tell may decide not to accept an invite. This equals less work and stress for her. But, she continues, they'll talk to everyone in the community. So? Anyone who knows him will just say Yup, that sounds about right, did you enjoy his videos? Isn't she a great cook? by the way neither of them knows he's an ASPIE. They don't know his grandson is an ASPIE either. They just know that the two are alike in many many ways. :bigsmile: [/QUOTE]
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