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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 513773" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I agree with you guys. He is so confused right now he wont listen to (or can't) what I say...he just gets mad and acts like I said the opposite of what I say. I think part of what is hard for him is it feels like he IS doing it on purpose. I mean who wants to say that they can't help it. PLUS when he in the past has tried to tell people by way of explaining .... things like "I am doing the best I can" "dont you know God made me this way" "I have a brain injury you know, can you take it a little easy" etc.... he has been (and I have to) accused of thinking he can get away with things. So then he is told this is his choice. So now he says, I know I can do better but I am choosing not to. Obviously not the truth when you see him try to negotiate things "if I am a super miracle , great, can I earn extra time watching espn??" etc. </p><p></p><p>I hope when he wakes today it is not so pressured on his mind. I am going to send an email to his counselor asking about this and if there is a way we can explain it to him a little better. </p><p></p><p>He also asks if he is worse than Osama bin L. and Hitler.... I have said similar to waht TeDo says, those people really, on purpose wanted to hurt people. That is different. But he then will say but I hurt people too and I can make choices....</p><p></p><p>Then I worry about fully letting him know that it is his condition that causes the choices to be harder to make, because I dont want him to give up trying to do better. I want him to believe he has the power to work toward his goals. He is such a black and white thinker that it is really hard not to get trapped with my explanations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 513773, member: 12886"] I agree with you guys. He is so confused right now he wont listen to (or can't) what I say...he just gets mad and acts like I said the opposite of what I say. I think part of what is hard for him is it feels like he IS doing it on purpose. I mean who wants to say that they can't help it. PLUS when he in the past has tried to tell people by way of explaining .... things like "I am doing the best I can" "dont you know God made me this way" "I have a brain injury you know, can you take it a little easy" etc.... he has been (and I have to) accused of thinking he can get away with things. So then he is told this is his choice. So now he says, I know I can do better but I am choosing not to. Obviously not the truth when you see him try to negotiate things "if I am a super miracle , great, can I earn extra time watching espn??" etc. I hope when he wakes today it is not so pressured on his mind. I am going to send an email to his counselor asking about this and if there is a way we can explain it to him a little better. He also asks if he is worse than Osama bin L. and Hitler.... I have said similar to waht TeDo says, those people really, on purpose wanted to hurt people. That is different. But he then will say but I hurt people too and I can make choices.... Then I worry about fully letting him know that it is his condition that causes the choices to be harder to make, because I dont want him to give up trying to do better. I want him to believe he has the power to work toward his goals. He is such a black and white thinker that it is really hard not to get trapped with my explanations. [/QUOTE]
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