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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 480679" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>thank you slsh- I always find a lot of support in your repsonses. Others, too, of course, but you and DJ seem to be able to hit home a lot with me. LOL!</p><p></p><p>Now what is weird about this- this group home does have and allow short term stays. There is NO reason that PO and GH couldn't have difficult child stay there a few weeks or a couple of mos to see how he's going to do and give us time to have some family therapy. That is all I ask for when PO was TRYING to force me into difficult child coming straight home, and threatening dss if I didn't. That is when I first went and consulted an attny. THEN a fed grant came thru for this GH. Now, I do understand that my difficult child lies a lot. But when it comes to stuff in this Department of Juvenile Justice system, he really does seem to be able to find out the scoop while I am always buying into BS I'm being told just to manipulate me. This has happened time and time again over the past few years. </p><p></p><p>Re-entry lady is chomping at the bit to get difficult child in as much as she can- she would settle for the in-home stuff but looks extremely happy at any previous mention of GH. PO acts like GH and re-entry program is most wonderfule thing in the world and how 'lucky we are to get approved for it'. Their website says it had to close when state funding got cut but has recently re-opened due to a fed grant. Re-entry lady told me herself that they were trying to find a "MH prof" to get on board and couldn't answer many of my questions because 'they were still scrambling to get things in place since fed grant was recieved for re'entry program".</p><p></p><p>This lady has never even mentioned the possibility of a short term sstay for difficult child- she is pushing long-term.</p><p></p><p>difficult child tells me she is taking anyone she can get in there because they just started this program.</p><p></p><p>I'm thinking they are doing this because they have to get kids to get funding and keep it and afford to get the staff they really need. AKA- they don't know what they are doing and PO is trying to support GH, not pay attention to difficult child's needs. And because he doesn't want to take the time to think about what really might help difficult child the most and make all three of us happy.</p><p></p><p>As far as difficult child, my feeling is that his time in Department of Juvenile Justice earning his way out was his punishment. That doesn't mean I think it's in either of our best interest for him to come straight home. But I don't think it's fair to him to send him to another place, particualrly a dump, where there is a min length of stay and he has to work his way out of there- doing yet another anger management program. This time should be focused on transition and reunification, in my humble opinion. All I asked for was a few weeks to 3 mos and it being based on whether or not difficult child was trying this time and making sure I wasn't plowing into another crisis, inasmuch as possible. Not that I thought all the problems would be solved by then, but it should be clear by then if difficult child can handle tough emotional issues without exploding and if he really has learned a lesson and is just plain trying this time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 480679, member: 3699"] thank you slsh- I always find a lot of support in your repsonses. Others, too, of course, but you and DJ seem to be able to hit home a lot with me. LOL! Now what is weird about this- this group home does have and allow short term stays. There is NO reason that PO and GH couldn't have difficult child stay there a few weeks or a couple of mos to see how he's going to do and give us time to have some family therapy. That is all I ask for when PO was TRYING to force me into difficult child coming straight home, and threatening dss if I didn't. That is when I first went and consulted an attny. THEN a fed grant came thru for this GH. Now, I do understand that my difficult child lies a lot. But when it comes to stuff in this Department of Juvenile Justice system, he really does seem to be able to find out the scoop while I am always buying into BS I'm being told just to manipulate me. This has happened time and time again over the past few years. Re-entry lady is chomping at the bit to get difficult child in as much as she can- she would settle for the in-home stuff but looks extremely happy at any previous mention of GH. PO acts like GH and re-entry program is most wonderfule thing in the world and how 'lucky we are to get approved for it'. Their website says it had to close when state funding got cut but has recently re-opened due to a fed grant. Re-entry lady told me herself that they were trying to find a "MH prof" to get on board and couldn't answer many of my questions because 'they were still scrambling to get things in place since fed grant was recieved for re'entry program". This lady has never even mentioned the possibility of a short term sstay for difficult child- she is pushing long-term. difficult child tells me she is taking anyone she can get in there because they just started this program. I'm thinking they are doing this because they have to get kids to get funding and keep it and afford to get the staff they really need. AKA- they don't know what they are doing and PO is trying to support GH, not pay attention to difficult child's needs. And because he doesn't want to take the time to think about what really might help difficult child the most and make all three of us happy. As far as difficult child, my feeling is that his time in Department of Juvenile Justice earning his way out was his punishment. That doesn't mean I think it's in either of our best interest for him to come straight home. But I don't think it's fair to him to send him to another place, particualrly a dump, where there is a min length of stay and he has to work his way out of there- doing yet another anger management program. This time should be focused on transition and reunification, in my humble opinion. All I asked for was a few weeks to 3 mos and it being based on whether or not difficult child was trying this time and making sure I wasn't plowing into another crisis, inasmuch as possible. Not that I thought all the problems would be solved by then, but it should be clear by then if difficult child can handle tough emotional issues without exploding and if he really has learned a lesson and is just plain trying this time. [/QUOTE]
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