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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 573226" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I continue to speak with them..</p><p>As of this moment (again I'm trying to be gentle and work on them but so much is on the plate to have to be dealt with on their end that I need to figure out a way around in order to help them "see the light") step dad wants to just get it over with and have the surgery. They have decided that they will "clean house" and get down here and stay with us and begin with the facility/treatment once here. They were going with a target date of 2 months. They are 65 and I think he is 67/68 and NO help up there. They need to pack up and clean out a house. I have a sister up there but she is NO help!! I am very very serious when I say this sadly. My oldest difficult child can go help for a couple of weeks but could not go for more then 2 as it would be detrimental to her if she did. They also are faced with financial crisis of needing to get a dumpster to just ditch stuff. At this point they are seriously considering bringing the barest minimum down (a bed a little else as far as furniture as what they have can easily be replaced). </p><p></p><p>As I began typing this I spoke again and reached through them. They have realized what I said finally and decided I (ya'll) are right. So game plan is for me to get an appointment set up with a dr down here at the Cancer center (they just built a new facility too). That once he had the surgery up there it might be too late as it would set a path already that they might not be able to change they way they want to go. So now it's a fast hustle to figure out specifics on how to get this done.</p><p></p><p>What I could use help with, if anyone can, is financial aspects. They are on fixed income. Is there any way they might be able to get some help with anything for this? Like can they get financial help to get down to this initial appointment? Or, if not financial, what about help in getting them out of their house up there? They need a dumpster and then the "brute force" of people they can just go in and get the stuff out. </p><p></p><p>If you followed my thread the other day about the big happenings, I can now share what it was. My mother had recently been inpatient at a Phospital due to overload of all this stress from the various situations going on. While there she had 2 falls out of bed. Neither time did they take her to be seen at a hospital (and they were bad falls and she asked for help as she's had her knees redone twice). The most they did was give her, literally, a hot wash cloth and a basin with the water for a compress on her leg that she hurt. The second fall she hit her head. The picture I had was of her leg with black and blues (mostly black) that was about 3-4 inches wide or more running the width of the outside of her leg from her hip to her knee. She was showing signs of nuerological problems so I told her to go to ER. She did. Turns out she had a concussion! So I called upon people I knew and then filed complaints. County and state stepped in, same day and crawled all over facility and did investigation. So you see....she's/they have been through a lot and continue and I just can not allow this to continue and know this has to happen. I have got to get them down here and do it now! We will do what we can to help and get them but I'm going to need help with it too and just seeking directions to find it. I do my own research with what I know but sometimes I can't and don't know all that I need or where to turn for answers.</p><p></p><p>Thanks ladies....I'm going to owe all of your my life! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 573226, member: 455"] I continue to speak with them.. As of this moment (again I'm trying to be gentle and work on them but so much is on the plate to have to be dealt with on their end that I need to figure out a way around in order to help them "see the light") step dad wants to just get it over with and have the surgery. They have decided that they will "clean house" and get down here and stay with us and begin with the facility/treatment once here. They were going with a target date of 2 months. They are 65 and I think he is 67/68 and NO help up there. They need to pack up and clean out a house. I have a sister up there but she is NO help!! I am very very serious when I say this sadly. My oldest difficult child can go help for a couple of weeks but could not go for more then 2 as it would be detrimental to her if she did. They also are faced with financial crisis of needing to get a dumpster to just ditch stuff. At this point they are seriously considering bringing the barest minimum down (a bed a little else as far as furniture as what they have can easily be replaced). As I began typing this I spoke again and reached through them. They have realized what I said finally and decided I (ya'll) are right. So game plan is for me to get an appointment set up with a dr down here at the Cancer center (they just built a new facility too). That once he had the surgery up there it might be too late as it would set a path already that they might not be able to change they way they want to go. So now it's a fast hustle to figure out specifics on how to get this done. What I could use help with, if anyone can, is financial aspects. They are on fixed income. Is there any way they might be able to get some help with anything for this? Like can they get financial help to get down to this initial appointment? Or, if not financial, what about help in getting them out of their house up there? They need a dumpster and then the "brute force" of people they can just go in and get the stuff out. If you followed my thread the other day about the big happenings, I can now share what it was. My mother had recently been inpatient at a Phospital due to overload of all this stress from the various situations going on. While there she had 2 falls out of bed. Neither time did they take her to be seen at a hospital (and they were bad falls and she asked for help as she's had her knees redone twice). The most they did was give her, literally, a hot wash cloth and a basin with the water for a compress on her leg that she hurt. The second fall she hit her head. The picture I had was of her leg with black and blues (mostly black) that was about 3-4 inches wide or more running the width of the outside of her leg from her hip to her knee. She was showing signs of nuerological problems so I told her to go to ER. She did. Turns out she had a concussion! So I called upon people I knew and then filed complaints. County and state stepped in, same day and crawled all over facility and did investigation. So you see....she's/they have been through a lot and continue and I just can not allow this to continue and know this has to happen. I have got to get them down here and do it now! We will do what we can to help and get them but I'm going to need help with it too and just seeking directions to find it. I do my own research with what I know but sometimes I can't and don't know all that I need or where to turn for answers. Thanks ladies....I'm going to owe all of your my life! ;) [/QUOTE]
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