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<blockquote data-quote="ready2run" data-source="post: 481290" data-attributes="member: 11339"><p>my step son came to us like an adoption. his birth mother gave up him and 3 siblings when he was a baby so she could continue being a drug addict/prostitute. he went to foster care where the foster parents told him they were his real parents, and then when he was two she finally decided to let the social workers know who the kids fathers were. that is when he came to us after a long screening process. when he is most unstable he will get mad at me for not being his birth mother. he will demand that Marion come get him NOW!! and insist he is off to go live with her. he also insists that we stole him from his foster 'real' family and thinks the foster dad will come back some day to get him. it's sad. i just tell him the truth for the most part, that his real mother couldn't look after him and that she knows where he is and that he is safe and that i have no way of contacting her(that is not entirely true, i do get in contact with her every once in a while to see how she is doing and sometimes send pics via the net) i have also told him that his 'papa' was wrong to tell him that he was the real father because he isn't and that he (harsh but true) only had him at their home because it was their job to look after him until they found him a new home. he still doesn't beleive me but there is not much else i can do. i am actually open to bm being a limited part of his life but she has so far opted out so that is up to her. for now i will keep letting him know that she can't take care of herself most of the time and it wouldn't be safe for him to be with her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ready2run, post: 481290, member: 11339"] my step son came to us like an adoption. his birth mother gave up him and 3 siblings when he was a baby so she could continue being a drug addict/prostitute. he went to foster care where the foster parents told him they were his real parents, and then when he was two she finally decided to let the social workers know who the kids fathers were. that is when he came to us after a long screening process. when he is most unstable he will get mad at me for not being his birth mother. he will demand that Marion come get him NOW!! and insist he is off to go live with her. he also insists that we stole him from his foster 'real' family and thinks the foster dad will come back some day to get him. it's sad. i just tell him the truth for the most part, that his real mother couldn't look after him and that she knows where he is and that he is safe and that i have no way of contacting her(that is not entirely true, i do get in contact with her every once in a while to see how she is doing and sometimes send pics via the net) i have also told him that his 'papa' was wrong to tell him that he was the real father because he isn't and that he (harsh but true) only had him at their home because it was their job to look after him until they found him a new home. he still doesn't beleive me but there is not much else i can do. i am actually open to bm being a limited part of his life but she has so far opted out so that is up to her. for now i will keep letting him know that she can't take care of herself most of the time and it wouldn't be safe for him to be with her. [/QUOTE]
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