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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 522845" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, the therapist is using "old school" thinking about Borderline (BPD). I found out I had it later in my life and the thinking has changed about as much as autism, in which when I was very young it was also supposed to be caused by "refrigerator moms." Bull! </p><p></p><p>I have never been abused sexually or physically in my entire life. I had verbal abuse, but many people have an equal level of verbal abuse and do not develop Borderline (BPD). I had Borderline (BPD) signs, as well as the usual accompanying mood disorder symptoms, in my very early teens. My father has many narcicistic traits and my mom was rather unstable...they are starting to believe that, like most things, a tendency to develop personality disorders is also inherited. And that is what I think too.</p><p></p><p>Borderline (BPD) is a very difficult disorder to have and to live with. The borderline gets very angry and wants revenge and it can take years and years of therapy and the right medication to help the borderline get ahold of her emotioins. Unfortunately, people can be hurt by the borderline while she is in the throes of it and it sounds like your daughter's method of doing so is to cry abuse. This does not mean that she has been abused, but she HAS found that crying abuse gets her sympathy and attention and hurts the person she alleges did it. Maybe she WAS abused, but I don't think she had to be and I wish you had better choices for therapists.</p><p></p><p>Have you ever heard of Dialectal Behavioral Therapy? Although I'm sure you could not find a DBT therapist who would take Medicaid at the county MH center, I'm going to post the link to a GREAT teaching book about DBT. DBT changed my life. CBT started the change thirty years ago and DBT just added to the help. DBT was developed strictly for borderline and it is so incredibly successful and helpful (if the borderline wants help). If you think that your daughter wants to get better, I'd give her the book and work with her on the side. If she won't, you can read it to see how to best handle your daughter. </p><p></p><p>A mainstream therapist is going to get absolutely nowhere with a borderline because their thinking is different and needs correction and most tdocs have no clue how to show them their thinking errors and how to regulate their emotions, which change moment to moment (it's like minute-to-minute bipolar!). </p><p></p><p>This book is expensive, but in my opinion it is worth it if you are dealing with a person who has borderline and if her therapist isn't much good. Of course, it has to be frustrating as hello that the therapist is insisting something happened that did not happen. Therapy is simply the newest ideas of the day and they change quickly. AT this time, nobody knows for sure what causes borderline, including your daughter's therapist. Here's the link:</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 522845, member: 1550"] Well, the therapist is using "old school" thinking about Borderline (BPD). I found out I had it later in my life and the thinking has changed about as much as autism, in which when I was very young it was also supposed to be caused by "refrigerator moms." Bull! I have never been abused sexually or physically in my entire life. I had verbal abuse, but many people have an equal level of verbal abuse and do not develop Borderline (BPD). I had Borderline (BPD) signs, as well as the usual accompanying mood disorder symptoms, in my very early teens. My father has many narcicistic traits and my mom was rather unstable...they are starting to believe that, like most things, a tendency to develop personality disorders is also inherited. And that is what I think too. Borderline (BPD) is a very difficult disorder to have and to live with. The borderline gets very angry and wants revenge and it can take years and years of therapy and the right medication to help the borderline get ahold of her emotioins. Unfortunately, people can be hurt by the borderline while she is in the throes of it and it sounds like your daughter's method of doing so is to cry abuse. This does not mean that she has been abused, but she HAS found that crying abuse gets her sympathy and attention and hurts the person she alleges did it. Maybe she WAS abused, but I don't think she had to be and I wish you had better choices for therapists. Have you ever heard of Dialectal Behavioral Therapy? Although I'm sure you could not find a DBT therapist who would take Medicaid at the county MH center, I'm going to post the link to a GREAT teaching book about DBT. DBT changed my life. CBT started the change thirty years ago and DBT just added to the help. DBT was developed strictly for borderline and it is so incredibly successful and helpful (if the borderline wants help). If you think that your daughter wants to get better, I'd give her the book and work with her on the side. If she won't, you can read it to see how to best handle your daughter. A mainstream therapist is going to get absolutely nowhere with a borderline because their thinking is different and needs correction and most tdocs have no clue how to show them their thinking errors and how to regulate their emotions, which change moment to moment (it's like minute-to-minute bipolar!). This book is expensive, but in my opinion it is worth it if you are dealing with a person who has borderline and if her therapist isn't much good. Of course, it has to be frustrating as hello that the therapist is insisting something happened that did not happen. Therapy is simply the newest ideas of the day and they change quickly. AT this time, nobody knows for sure what causes borderline, including your daughter's therapist. Here's the link: [url]http://www.amazon.com/Training-Treating-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/0898620341[/url] [/QUOTE]
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