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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 538953" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Have not read any replies-forgive repeats.</p><p>As you know I have a daughter with Borderline (BPD). She was repeatedly molested by an older cousin and gang raped (the rape is what triggered the PTSD and Borderline (BPD)). We had no idea about either (and were shocked as we thought we had kept her safe)and only learned after placing her in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because her behaviors were so dangerous. Yes, with most Borderline (BPD) suffers, abuse is part of the deal, esp. sexual. With others, this is not true at all. There is a predisposition that has to be there for it to occur at all. There tends to be an emotional oversensitivity with these kids. So.. false accusations come in 2 forms (at least from my reading) 1. From their oversensitivity, they misread things as abusive 2.They will lashout at their target, and be totally earnest that their perception is right. One book says that dad can often be the victom. In our home it is me.(Probably because I am the tough one).</p><p></p><p>I would not doubt for a second that she percieved herself as date raped and may have been truelly date raped. Holy cow, I remember everyone of my friends and myself fighting off boys at times. This can be very traumatic and even more so if it occurs in an individual at risk for Borderline (BPD). Who knows, some of these may have been really aweful and traumatic. By the way, we never thought anyone had the chance to hurt our daughter and we were really protective parents-so much for that. It is amazing who can get at our kids and where.The rape happened at school!</p><p></p><p>As for the idea that she was molested as a baby-if you know it was not possible, I would calmly state that and also look up some of the latest stuff to share about Borderline (BPD). And don't assume this implicated dad-it sounds as if you know better. I recommend a book called <u>Bordeline Personality Disorder in Adolescents. </u>Our stories are in this book (made me feel not alone)and it is helpful to share with those who are so poorly trained on the subject and new research. Read it and carry the info to the professional. As for the new person-let them know up front your concerns and worries and let them know that you are informed about Borderline (BPD)-the latest stuff. Also that you do not believe in some of the persistant old myths about Borderline (BPD) (no treatment, always triggered by abuse, that they are manipulative on purpose etc.) Good luck DF, this is a long road to travel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 538953, member: 11001"] Have not read any replies-forgive repeats. As you know I have a daughter with Borderline (BPD). She was repeatedly molested by an older cousin and gang raped (the rape is what triggered the PTSD and Borderline (BPD)). We had no idea about either (and were shocked as we thought we had kept her safe)and only learned after placing her in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because her behaviors were so dangerous. Yes, with most Borderline (BPD) suffers, abuse is part of the deal, esp. sexual. With others, this is not true at all. There is a predisposition that has to be there for it to occur at all. There tends to be an emotional oversensitivity with these kids. So.. false accusations come in 2 forms (at least from my reading) 1. From their oversensitivity, they misread things as abusive 2.They will lashout at their target, and be totally earnest that their perception is right. One book says that dad can often be the victom. In our home it is me.(Probably because I am the tough one). I would not doubt for a second that she percieved herself as date raped and may have been truelly date raped. Holy cow, I remember everyone of my friends and myself fighting off boys at times. This can be very traumatic and even more so if it occurs in an individual at risk for Borderline (BPD). Who knows, some of these may have been really aweful and traumatic. By the way, we never thought anyone had the chance to hurt our daughter and we were really protective parents-so much for that. It is amazing who can get at our kids and where.The rape happened at school! As for the idea that she was molested as a baby-if you know it was not possible, I would calmly state that and also look up some of the latest stuff to share about Borderline (BPD). And don't assume this implicated dad-it sounds as if you know better. I recommend a book called [U]Bordeline Personality Disorder in Adolescents. [/U]Our stories are in this book (made me feel not alone)and it is helpful to share with those who are so poorly trained on the subject and new research. Read it and carry the info to the professional. As for the new person-let them know up front your concerns and worries and let them know that you are informed about Borderline (BPD)-the latest stuff. Also that you do not believe in some of the persistant old myths about Borderline (BPD) (no treatment, always triggered by abuse, that they are manipulative on purpose etc.) Good luck DF, this is a long road to travel. [/QUOTE]
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