If she has bipolar disorder, she needs medication. Counseling alone will not do it, but it will help in conjunction with medication. You need to a see a child psychiatrist to get a prescription for this medication.
Here is a link to the Treatment Guidelines on the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Disorder website:
http://www.thebalancedmind.org/sites/default/files/treatment_guidelines.pdf
In general, kids with BiPolar (BP) need a first-line mood stabilizer (Lithium, Depakote, Lamictal, Trilepta, Tegretol) plus an atypical antipsychotic (Risperdal, Seroquel, Abilify, Zyprexa, Geodon, Invega) to achieve stability. Stimulants and SSRI antidepressants tend to make kids with BiPolar (BP) much worse.
