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Questioning therapist's intentions-thoughts pls
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 76053"><p>CBT is a very good therapeutic tool, but if difficult child isn't going to do the work it doesn't matter. </p><p></p><p>For a long time, I never felt like I got anything out of therapy. It's incredibly difficult for me to talk about things and I was very good at controlling the session. It wasn't intentional; it was just my way of redirecting the therapist to something "safe" to talk about. However, I didn't want to be coddled and would leave a therapist who tried to do the "poor you" routine. I didn't buy it.</p><p></p><p>I started to see a new therapist recently because of everything going on in my life and she is completely different. She's trained in CBT and EMDR, among others, but we haven't even gotten to that, yet. I was kind of ambivalent about going...not really expecting to gain much, but feeling so overwhelmed by everything that I felt like I needed to at least try to talk to someone. At the second appointment, we're talking about things - just like I had always done in the past - and she stops me and says, "What is it that you are wanting from me?" Seems like such a simple question, but not one I had ever been asked by a therapist before and I really didn't know how to answer. She then proceeded to tell me that she is there to empower me which is why she put the ball back in my court. Her take on things is more along the lines of, "Yeah. What you've been through stinks. So, what do you need to do in order to deal with it?" NOT, "Oh, you poor thing!" which is sooo counter-productive.</p><p></p><p>I really like her.</p><p></p><p>If difficult child's therapist can't see through difficult child, it's time to find another.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 76053"] CBT is a very good therapeutic tool, but if difficult child isn't going to do the work it doesn't matter. For a long time, I never felt like I got anything out of therapy. It's incredibly difficult for me to talk about things and I was very good at controlling the session. It wasn't intentional; it was just my way of redirecting the therapist to something "safe" to talk about. However, I didn't want to be coddled and would leave a therapist who tried to do the "poor you" routine. I didn't buy it. I started to see a new therapist recently because of everything going on in my life and she is completely different. She's trained in CBT and EMDR, among others, but we haven't even gotten to that, yet. I was kind of ambivalent about going...not really expecting to gain much, but feeling so overwhelmed by everything that I felt like I needed to at least try to talk to someone. At the second appointment, we're talking about things - just like I had always done in the past - and she stops me and says, "What is it that you are wanting from me?" Seems like such a simple question, but not one I had ever been asked by a therapist before and I really didn't know how to answer. She then proceeded to tell me that she is there to empower me which is why she put the ball back in my court. Her take on things is more along the lines of, "Yeah. What you've been through stinks. So, what do you need to do in order to deal with it?" NOT, "Oh, you poor thing!" which is sooo counter-productive. I really like her. If difficult child's therapist can't see through difficult child, it's time to find another. [/QUOTE]
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