difficult child said last year that he wanted to try out for football this year. I supported that decision (and amazed myself) because I thought it would be good for him to have the physical activity and do something constructive that helped him learn how to channel some of this energy. Anyway, then he backed out right before school started this week. Today, he said he wanted to do it and wished he'd tried out. (Try-outs were Tuesday.) He doesn't want to do this right now for the right reasons (he wants girls' attention, the friend who was then wasn't and now somewhat is again just started football, and my talk with him about Rosie and needlepoint has gotten him motivated). But, I think it would be great for him anyway- energy, weight, mental focus, something constructive issues, etc. The problem is- try outs are over and there was a mandatory meeting on Tuesday for those who wanted to be on the team. difficult child has told me that all 8th graders who wanted to join always make the team and that there are only a few large 8th graders so they could use another one and other team players have told him that they wish he was on the team. I'm thinking I'll contact someone at school tomorrow and say something like "he's sorry he didn't try out, we were on vacation last week so hadn't kept up with requirements for this week, if you need someone who might be good at tackling please let us know". I'm not sure what else to do. I can contact his case manager and ask her advice, but I've never met her- they switched CM's for difficult child this year. I could contact the coach but he'd have no idea who difficult child is. I could contact the principal- she's been pretty nice since I mentioned my meetings with a Special Education attny last year and she could pull some strings, but I don't know that I want to take advantage of that for this kind of situation. So- if anyone has some miraculous control over this situation-please send vibes our way tonight and tomorrow!!! Unless- you think maybe I shouldn't pursue this. I have that doubt too since I know difficult child isn't really doing it for the right reasons. If you think I'd be making a mistake or sending him the wrong message to pursue it, please let me know. Thanks in advance!! I'm going to be starting another post about a different topic (therapist)- sorry- it's a busy time!!