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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 756346" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I am so sorry. Most of us deal with the same problems and watching our adult kids think only about themselves and show no empathy or heart is so hard. </p><p></p><p>This in my opinion seems to be a big reason why what WE do or say doesn't help them. With their lack of empathy, they don't in any way want to please us. All they in general seem to want from us is housing, money, and favors. My own daughter doesn't even want our love. Can't buy anything with it. That's all she wants from us.</p><p></p><p>In varying degrees most of the kids who bring us here seem to be like this. If they cared about pleasing us, they would AT LEAST be nice to us. </p><p></p><p>Josh sounds shockingly selfish but Kay would have said the same thing. That to me is what the problem is with our kids. You need to want to please somebody beyond yourself to succeed and most of them hate themselves too. I used to make excuses and look for the good in Kay.</p><p></p><p>I found Kay was only nice when we offered her something. It was phony nice. I truly don't see much good. She rarely even calls Amy to see how Jaden is doing. When she does she tries to get Amy to send her money. </p><p></p><p>Well, prayers to you. I know well how shocking it feels each time our kindness to them is used against us. I don't care why anymore.</p><p></p><p>Try to find peace with Josh and how he is. We can't change them. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 756346, member: 23706"] I am so sorry. Most of us deal with the same problems and watching our adult kids think only about themselves and show no empathy or heart is so hard. This in my opinion seems to be a big reason why what WE do or say doesn't help them. With their lack of empathy, they don't in any way want to please us. All they in general seem to want from us is housing, money, and favors. My own daughter doesn't even want our love. Can't buy anything with it. That's all she wants from us. In varying degrees most of the kids who bring us here seem to be like this. If they cared about pleasing us, they would AT LEAST be nice to us. Josh sounds shockingly selfish but Kay would have said the same thing. That to me is what the problem is with our kids. You need to want to please somebody beyond yourself to succeed and most of them hate themselves too. I used to make excuses and look for the good in Kay. I found Kay was only nice when we offered her something. It was phony nice. I truly don't see much good. She rarely even calls Amy to see how Jaden is doing. When she does she tries to get Amy to send her money. Well, prayers to you. I know well how shocking it feels each time our kindness to them is used against us. I don't care why anymore. Try to find peace with Josh and how he is. We can't change them. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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