I have lived long enough where I have known many people including those in my family, such as father and uncles who live in a way where they self-destruct and hurt others. While I believe with all of my heart as do you that adult behavior is a choice, there are many people who do not perceive this as so, and do not experience their actions as having potential to decide a different outcome.
I am not clear about why this is so. It has been the hardest thing, with respect to my own child, in large part because thus far it has been evocative or a repetition of what happened with my father.
My son believes it is his destiny to suffer as he has. He feels no choice at all.
I believe as do you, Busy, that we can choose, but I don't believe we have full control over our destiny. I believe we can choose in the face of destiny.
As I live this with my son more and more I feel that I am regaining control over both my decisions and with that to the extent that I'm able, regaining the potential to live my destiny, whatever it can be.
