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quick vent...why is it the parent's fault?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 604740" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>At least in the US, ODD is pretty much a garbage diagnosis without a lot of credibility. Psychiatrists rarely use it. It basically means "we don't know what's wrong." It is usually therapists, not the more highly credentialed professionals such as psychiatrists and neuropsychologists who blame the parents. Science is beginning to show a strong genetic link to mental illness and behavioral problems. Most of us on this board don't put much credence in ODD and it rarely stands alone. It means "defiant child." Ok, so WHY is the child defiant? ADHD? Autism? A mood disorder? A learning disability? it is better to look beyond ODD because all of our kids here fit ODD, but they all have it for different reasons and I don't think many of us are even trying to treat just ODD. It is meaningless by itself.</p><p></p><p>If I were you, and live in the US, I would find a good neuropsychologist and have your child tested thoroughly. You won't be told it is your fault. In t he US, Neuropsychs tend to be the ones who do intensive testing. Even regular psychologists tend to stick more to talk therapy. The testing is key. </p><p></p><p>Your son is an Aspie/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) (same thing...spectrum kids). Because their brains are wired differently, they can not handle life easily and need interventions. I would fire any professional who says it's due to your parenting and find one who knows better. This is NOT your fault. It is different wiring in the brain that they are born with. Often it runs in the DNA, even if nobody older has been diagnosed (doesn't mean they didn't have it). Theories are guesses and not scientific and are always changing. Freud has all but been wiped off the map, as far as credibility.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and stop beating yourself up just because professionals, friends, kissing cousins, teachers, the lady in the park, etc. may not understand brain disorders and people tend to blame you. They are pretty clueless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 604740, member: 1550"] At least in the US, ODD is pretty much a garbage diagnosis without a lot of credibility. Psychiatrists rarely use it. It basically means "we don't know what's wrong." It is usually therapists, not the more highly credentialed professionals such as psychiatrists and neuropsychologists who blame the parents. Science is beginning to show a strong genetic link to mental illness and behavioral problems. Most of us on this board don't put much credence in ODD and it rarely stands alone. It means "defiant child." Ok, so WHY is the child defiant? ADHD? Autism? A mood disorder? A learning disability? it is better to look beyond ODD because all of our kids here fit ODD, but they all have it for different reasons and I don't think many of us are even trying to treat just ODD. It is meaningless by itself. If I were you, and live in the US, I would find a good neuropsychologist and have your child tested thoroughly. You won't be told it is your fault. In t he US, Neuropsychs tend to be the ones who do intensive testing. Even regular psychologists tend to stick more to talk therapy. The testing is key. Your son is an Aspie/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) (same thing...spectrum kids). Because their brains are wired differently, they can not handle life easily and need interventions. I would fire any professional who says it's due to your parenting and find one who knows better. This is NOT your fault. It is different wiring in the brain that they are born with. Often it runs in the DNA, even if nobody older has been diagnosed (doesn't mean they didn't have it). Theories are guesses and not scientific and are always changing. Freud has all but been wiped off the map, as far as credibility. Hugs and stop beating yourself up just because professionals, friends, kissing cousins, teachers, the lady in the park, etc. may not understand brain disorders and people tend to blame you. They are pretty clueless. [/QUOTE]
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