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quick vent...why is it the parent's fault?
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 604767" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I've read a LOT that links ODD to parenting.</p><p> </p><p>However... to answer the poster's direct question:</p><p>My experience? In this case, ODD is a totally incorrect diagnosis. There is something else going on. Your medical team hasn't found it. School is probably pinning the blame on you and supporting a behavior-based label. But... it's probably something else. Could be developmental, could be MI, but... either way, those are not caused by parenting. You are seeing ODD-like behaviors. But the cause is different, and any interventions, accommodations, therapies and/or medications will be based on the <em>cause</em> rather than on the <em>behavior</em>.</p><p></p><p>These are not likely to be your situation:</p><p></p><p>Failure to bond causes Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), which can sort of look like ODD, but it's a lot more scary. Not necessarily current parents: may show up in older adopted kids, because of how their early years were.</p><p> </p><p>Ineffective parenting can cause behavior problems. Usually, there will be a pattern in the kids. One of a number in the same home might find other sources of support etc. and do better than some of the others, but it's not usual for it to be just one out of n kids in the same home. Not all behavior problems are ODD... either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 604767, member: 11791"] I've read a LOT that links ODD to parenting. However... to answer the poster's direct question: My experience? In this case, ODD is a totally incorrect diagnosis. There is something else going on. Your medical team hasn't found it. School is probably pinning the blame on you and supporting a behavior-based label. But... it's probably something else. Could be developmental, could be MI, but... either way, those are not caused by parenting. You are seeing ODD-like behaviors. But the cause is different, and any interventions, accommodations, therapies and/or medications will be based on the [I]cause[/I] rather than on the [I]behavior[/I]. These are not likely to be your situation: Failure to bond causes Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), which can sort of look like ODD, but it's a lot more scary. Not necessarily current parents: may show up in older adopted kids, because of how their early years were. Ineffective parenting can cause behavior problems. Usually, there will be a pattern in the kids. One of a number in the same home might find other sources of support etc. and do better than some of the others, but it's not usual for it to be just one out of n kids in the same home. Not all behavior problems are ODD... either. [/QUOTE]
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