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quick vent...why is it the parent's fault?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 605150" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Jane, did you read the websites that say blaming parents is bunk? Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, etc. are not caused by too little cuddling. Remember, anyone can say anything on the internet and there are a lot of incompetent people writing articles on it. I think it would be good if you got a second opinion.</p><p></p><p>Suggestion: Detach from Mom, if she's blaming you. If she is a big force in your life, naturally you are hearing her criticism every day...don't give her that power. There is absolutely nothing good about listening to her make those comments. I'd cut down contact with her and make a strict rule that if she brings up your parenting, you will gently but definitely end the phone calls or visits. Then do it. She has no business making her own daughter feel like crapola. That goes for cousins, aunts, uncles, "helpful" friends, teachers (they are not mental health professionals) and your neighbor down the street who fixes cars for a living. There is nothing you could have done to change the different wiring in his brain and and I'd look for supportive care...neuropsychs are good and so are most psychiatrists and some therapists who understand differently wired kids. If they start to blame you, they can't help you or your child. Run for the hills <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>p.s.--Neurologists do not diagnose childhood disorders unless they are epilepsy and other more concrete things. They don't do the same testing as a neuropsychologist. Neuropsychs do the most intensive testing in this country. Psychologists, for some reason, don't seem to test much at all and, if they do, they cut it short.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 605150, member: 1550"] Jane, did you read the websites that say blaming parents is bunk? Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), ADHD, etc. are not caused by too little cuddling. Remember, anyone can say anything on the internet and there are a lot of incompetent people writing articles on it. I think it would be good if you got a second opinion. Suggestion: Detach from Mom, if she's blaming you. If she is a big force in your life, naturally you are hearing her criticism every day...don't give her that power. There is absolutely nothing good about listening to her make those comments. I'd cut down contact with her and make a strict rule that if she brings up your parenting, you will gently but definitely end the phone calls or visits. Then do it. She has no business making her own daughter feel like crapola. That goes for cousins, aunts, uncles, "helpful" friends, teachers (they are not mental health professionals) and your neighbor down the street who fixes cars for a living. There is nothing you could have done to change the different wiring in his brain and and I'd look for supportive care...neuropsychs are good and so are most psychiatrists and some therapists who understand differently wired kids. If they start to blame you, they can't help you or your child. Run for the hills :) p.s.--Neurologists do not diagnose childhood disorders unless they are epilepsy and other more concrete things. They don't do the same testing as a neuropsychologist. Neuropsychs do the most intensive testing in this country. Psychologists, for some reason, don't seem to test much at all and, if they do, they cut it short. [/QUOTE]
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