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Quillivant XR, appts soon, there was a mix up insc!! Ugghh!!
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 652950" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>What I would do, would keep daily structure same despite almost anything. Sleeping, eating, outside time, bedtime routines, school, chores, creative play etc. would not be privileges, rewards or punishments. Simply thing that you do.</p><p></p><p>Your son is young. He absolutely needs a chance to move and be active and play. He needs nutritious food. He needs sleep. He needs affection. Those are rights, not privileges. Taking away outside time for punishment works same way as taking away sleep or food as punishment. Yes, it makes him miserable, and so it is punishment, but it also makes it even more difficult for him to control himself and behave. When you are lacking sleep, your blood sugar is low because you are hungry or you don't get enough activity and exercise (and for young boys the need is huge), and if a child, you don't have time for free play, your body is in distress and it effects your behaviour and impulse control and anger management in very negative way.</p><p></p><p>If his behaviours are such, that he needs to be supervised more strictly, you can restrict the area he can go outside, you may need to outside and keep him where you can see him all the time, but taking outside time away simply hurts you all. It will not make him behave better but worse.</p><p></p><p>As punishments and rewards use things that are not needs. Screen time is not a need, going to certain event is not a need, candies or sweet snacks or deserts are not needs. Play dates etc. are not short term need. Sleep, nutritious food, exercise, chance to play and affection are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 652950, member: 14557"] What I would do, would keep daily structure same despite almost anything. Sleeping, eating, outside time, bedtime routines, school, chores, creative play etc. would not be privileges, rewards or punishments. Simply thing that you do. Your son is young. He absolutely needs a chance to move and be active and play. He needs nutritious food. He needs sleep. He needs affection. Those are rights, not privileges. Taking away outside time for punishment works same way as taking away sleep or food as punishment. Yes, it makes him miserable, and so it is punishment, but it also makes it even more difficult for him to control himself and behave. When you are lacking sleep, your blood sugar is low because you are hungry or you don't get enough activity and exercise (and for young boys the need is huge), and if a child, you don't have time for free play, your body is in distress and it effects your behaviour and impulse control and anger management in very negative way. If his behaviours are such, that he needs to be supervised more strictly, you can restrict the area he can go outside, you may need to outside and keep him where you can see him all the time, but taking outside time away simply hurts you all. It will not make him behave better but worse. As punishments and rewards use things that are not needs. Screen time is not a need, going to certain event is not a need, candies or sweet snacks or deserts are not needs. Play dates etc. are not short term need. Sleep, nutritious food, exercise, chance to play and affection are. [/QUOTE]
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