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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 322652" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>From her behavior, it sounds like she could have bipolar along with some personality disorder. I would have no idea which one, but they are all difficult to deal with unless the person is self-aware and in serious therapy, working hard. And she needs to stop using drugs. This normally does not happen if the parents are willing to put up with both emotional and physical abuse. But in my opinion that doesn't mean YOU have to be part of the problem. Is it essential culturally that you take care of this abusive sister? She defaults on loans, among other dumb things, because she's an emotional mess with poor brain wiring and nobody can fix herself other than her. </p><p></p><p>I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I'd do. I'd say "No way, Jose, she is on her own. I can't stop you and Dad from enabling her, but I won't have any part in this. I want to finish school and live my own life in a healthy way. She will get in the way of this and chase away friends, and I don't want to give her that power. I'm sorry if you're angry, but this is not my problem. It's her problem and only she can fix it."</p><p></p><p>I was a problem child myself with a personality disorder and, trust me, I never would have gotten better if my family had enabled me that way. And I was never even half as bad as she is. I'm actually grateful that they didn't understand me, made me hit rock bottom, and that I had time to reflect on myself and beg for help, working hard to get it.</p><p></p><p>I feel for you, and wish you lots and lots of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 322652, member: 1550"] From her behavior, it sounds like she could have bipolar along with some personality disorder. I would have no idea which one, but they are all difficult to deal with unless the person is self-aware and in serious therapy, working hard. And she needs to stop using drugs. This normally does not happen if the parents are willing to put up with both emotional and physical abuse. But in my opinion that doesn't mean YOU have to be part of the problem. Is it essential culturally that you take care of this abusive sister? She defaults on loans, among other dumb things, because she's an emotional mess with poor brain wiring and nobody can fix herself other than her. I can't tell you what to do. I can tell you what I'd do. I'd say "No way, Jose, she is on her own. I can't stop you and Dad from enabling her, but I won't have any part in this. I want to finish school and live my own life in a healthy way. She will get in the way of this and chase away friends, and I don't want to give her that power. I'm sorry if you're angry, but this is not my problem. It's her problem and only she can fix it." I was a problem child myself with a personality disorder and, trust me, I never would have gotten better if my family had enabled me that way. And I was never even half as bad as she is. I'm actually grateful that they didn't understand me, made me hit rock bottom, and that I had time to reflect on myself and beg for help, working hard to get it. I feel for you, and wish you lots and lots of luck. [/QUOTE]
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