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Random acts of, well you know, and an upcoming birthday.
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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 653014" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Hugs Lil & Jabber,</p><p></p><p>I so well remember that dark forest you both are in (I remember thinking we were in a place like Germany's Black Forest, though we had never actually visited).</p><p></p><p>.....and I can "1up" you, lol. Not only did our house look unkempt, I (the bill payer) quit paying bills. Or at least, I was often late. Our credit rating had been good up to that point, and is again now, but it sunk to a new low during those worst months. I. just. did. not. care. Truly, I did not. Energy was nil.</p><p></p><p>It's like you are just in basic survival mode. Once you re-enter the daylight, <strong>and you will</strong>, after leaving it up to your son to make his own movements, based on his choices, your lives will get better. It only happened for husband and me after we pulled back. As in, waaaaay back.</p><p></p><p>I look back on those dark days now and cringe. It was a difficult, difficult time. I am sorry you are in the midst of the maelstrom.</p><p></p><p>You are moving toward the light. You will eat better, exercise, go through the movements until it is your way of living again. And, you <strong>will </strong>look back and think, "Wow, cannot believe we were ever in that awful place." We hear our difficult child's have to hit rock bottom. In husband and my case, WE had to hit rock bottom until we made the conscious effort to climb out.</p><p></p><p>More hugs,</p><p>SS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 653014, member: 17635"] Hugs Lil & Jabber, I so well remember that dark forest you both are in (I remember thinking we were in a place like Germany's Black Forest, though we had never actually visited). .....and I can "1up" you, lol. Not only did our house look unkempt, I (the bill payer) quit paying bills. Or at least, I was often late. Our credit rating had been good up to that point, and is again now, but it sunk to a new low during those worst months. I. just. did. not. care. Truly, I did not. Energy was nil. It's like you are just in basic survival mode. Once you re-enter the daylight, [B]and you will[/B], after leaving it up to your son to make his own movements, based on his choices, your lives will get better. It only happened for husband and me after we pulled back. As in, waaaaay back. I look back on those dark days now and cringe. It was a difficult, difficult time. I am sorry you are in the midst of the maelstrom. You are moving toward the light. You will eat better, exercise, go through the movements until it is your way of living again. And, you [B]will [/B]look back and think, "Wow, cannot believe we were ever in that awful place." We hear our difficult child's have to hit rock bottom. In husband and my case, WE had to hit rock bottom until we made the conscious effort to climb out. More hugs, SS [/QUOTE]
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