I know if I found that out, I would forbid it. And I told my daughter, when she started getting into trouble, that "privacy" didn't apply to her anymore and that we will inspect her room, possibly read her diary, and check the internet to see what she's doing. Yeah, she whined and said, "You don't trust me." Guess what? We didn't and told her so. She had to earn our trust--she had violated it on every level. We're lucky we "violated" her trust. She had plans to run off to Colorado to see a boy she met on the internet. I wouldn't even apologize for how I found out, I'd tell him that, due to his behavior, he has no privacy. I was shocked that, knowing this, daughter left her diary in full view...maybe she WANTED us to see...who knew?
On the other side, boys of sixteen are going to try to have sex. I raised two easy child boys. They don't care if they know the girl or not. Their hormones are in high gear. I came home early from work once to find my son with a girl in his room in a compromising situation. He wasn't a problem kid. I don't consider wanting sex to be "the dark side." I consider it normal, and he will probably do it whether he does it this time or not. For all you know, he already has. That, in my opinion, is normal teenager boy behavior. I'm always amazed at girls these days--they offer themselves, with so much to lose, and they don't care. I have no idea how you can keep a boy his age from having sex. I don't think it's possible unless you follow him around. I agree with Meg. Teach him safe sex because he isn't going to wait until you think he's ready.
I would think twice about letting him learn to drive this young if you're that concerned about him. Consider yourself warned :wink: My younger kids have to earn the right to get their license. I learned with my first difficult child that cars and difficult children are a terrible combination.
