It's been awhile and I am not sure we have progressed or not. Update: 16 yr old diagnosed as major depression with O/C tendancies. Zoloft and .5mg Risperdal seemed to help. Therapy did absolutely nothing. He didn't want to return to small private Christian school. Our public school is horrid. Decided to try 10th grade there (he's been there since 4th) Basically he has just embraced being a bad boy. He wanted to rap, we compromised and let him if it was clean. (since he was suicidal and began cutting basically) So he makes these vile, horrible songs about b____S and whores and disguisting things and then bleeps out the bad words. We are trying so hard to restore our family but we have had such a difficult year. We threatened a treatment boarding school in our state and that seemed to help some of the defiance. Now, though he doesn't know it, I discovered he's going to try and have sex this weekend. The girl's myspace describes herself as a "dirty 'ho". She is obviously from a good family and is embracing the dark side as much as my son. So there's no relationship, they are both virgins and are just going to have sex. I cannot let him know I know lest he find out I am spying on him through the computer. What should I do? husband says we just forbid them even hanging out together on the basis that we don't know the girl and what we do know we don't like but I know he'll get furious and sneak. I know the backlash is to start all the other garbage again. So I guess we are just going to be tough. He will be driving-if we sign him up for lessons- but with this in his heart I know it's going to just be a constant battle keeping him from having sex or who knows what.