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Re: Did addiction turn your kid difficult child or was your kid a difficult child who became addict?
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 564670"><p>Yep - I think it was the catalyst, for sure. And it's like a chicken and egg thing - did the brain injury lead to the fog he claims he felt academically? Or did he fall into a depression after the assault which lead to self medicating? He's told us he felt "safe" with the friend from hometown (who is a BIG guy and a familiar face) and that's why they started hanging out together...so was it the NEED for this friendship that led him to start using in order to fit in? And until I can get him to agree to counseling; (ha!) we may never know the answer. </p><p></p><p>But the facts are that the POT certainly didn't help and he has an almost textbook perfect, classic case of "failure to launch", "Motivational deficit" associated with chronic marijuana use...so whatever was the cause, pot is NOT the answer.</p><p></p><p>The thing is - this was a boy who has ALWAYS had tremendous leadership POTENTIAL - recognized by so many people! Yet, he has never actually stepped up and been a leader. In fact for years - nearly every report card or conference had at least 1 teacher telling us that he failed to take advantage of his leadership potential. Just the opposite- he has always been a follower. Except for a shining moment his last 3 semesters in HS- after counseling - he became much more ambitious and he was in such a good place...c'est la vie...</p><p></p><p>The junior year counseling also identified that his experimentation with drugs and alcohol lead directly and quickly into abuse of the same and that - while he hadn't crossed the line into addiction yet - he was close and likely genetically predisposed to becoming an addict. I remember his psychiatrist telling me that the patterns of his use turning to abuse showed a neurological reaction that is seen in genetic addiction. In fact, after his first session, his psychiatrists first words to me were "who are the addicts in the family?" (A: H's brother and grandfather) He counseled difficult child that continued and further experimentation would likely lead to addiction, something difficult child took seriously at the time.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know where I am going with this - but it's the same darn circular conversation that I have with myself each and every time I think about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 564670"] Yep - I think it was the catalyst, for sure. And it's like a chicken and egg thing - did the brain injury lead to the fog he claims he felt academically? Or did he fall into a depression after the assault which lead to self medicating? He's told us he felt "safe" with the friend from hometown (who is a BIG guy and a familiar face) and that's why they started hanging out together...so was it the NEED for this friendship that led him to start using in order to fit in? And until I can get him to agree to counseling; (ha!) we may never know the answer. But the facts are that the POT certainly didn't help and he has an almost textbook perfect, classic case of "failure to launch", "Motivational deficit" associated with chronic marijuana use...so whatever was the cause, pot is NOT the answer. The thing is - this was a boy who has ALWAYS had tremendous leadership POTENTIAL - recognized by so many people! Yet, he has never actually stepped up and been a leader. In fact for years - nearly every report card or conference had at least 1 teacher telling us that he failed to take advantage of his leadership potential. Just the opposite- he has always been a follower. Except for a shining moment his last 3 semesters in HS- after counseling - he became much more ambitious and he was in such a good place...c'est la vie... The junior year counseling also identified that his experimentation with drugs and alcohol lead directly and quickly into abuse of the same and that - while he hadn't crossed the line into addiction yet - he was close and likely genetically predisposed to becoming an addict. I remember his psychiatrist telling me that the patterns of his use turning to abuse showed a neurological reaction that is seen in genetic addiction. In fact, after his first session, his psychiatrists first words to me were "who are the addicts in the family?" (A: H's brother and grandfather) He counseled difficult child that continued and further experimentation would likely lead to addiction, something difficult child took seriously at the time. I don't know where I am going with this - but it's the same darn circular conversation that I have with myself each and every time I think about it. [/QUOTE]
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