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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 162052" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hi and welcome to the board!</p><p> </p><p>I have a couple things.....you say that you recently married. Had you been dating your new husband for a long time? Were you living together? What type of relationship has difficult child had/has with him?</p><p> </p><p>One thing that could be creating an issue is the parenting between the two of you. First and foremost, you are his mother and he is his stepfather. It is very difficult for a stepparent to step in and assume discipline responsibiity. It can creat some difficult situations. You need to assume the majority responsibility for the discipline of your son. Your husband needs to understand that he may be contributing to the issues here by using such a heavy hand with your son. The two of you need to sit down when the kids are not around and find a way to coparent without discent. That is key to making this new marriage/new melded family thing work.</p><p> </p><p>His case manager was someone he saw once a week at school right? You are not talking about a 1:1 or aide or you? Irregardless, many difficult child develope relationships that help them get through situations. I know that the leaving of someone trusted and well-liked would definately have an effect on my son. Not sure that the behavior would spiral, but it would have an effect nonetheless.</p><p> </p><p>One suggestion I have that might prove beneficial for all of you (especially since you are thinking maybe your little easy child may not be one!) is to speak to your difficult child's psychiatrist/therapist and find get into a session or two of family counseling. I think it would benefit everyone if you all sat down with someone who could make suggestions on how to blend the family with little conflict. Parenting difficult children is tough business. It can be made tougher in a blended family. It's worth fighting for.</p><p> </p><p>I would imagine that you have contacted difficult child's doctor about his recent downswing? What are his/her thoughts? If I had to guess, I would say it has something to do with the new situation at home.</p><p> </p><p>Glad you found your way to us!</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 162052, member: 805"] Hi and welcome to the board! I have a couple things.....you say that you recently married. Had you been dating your new husband for a long time? Were you living together? What type of relationship has difficult child had/has with him? One thing that could be creating an issue is the parenting between the two of you. First and foremost, you are his mother and he is his stepfather. It is very difficult for a stepparent to step in and assume discipline responsibiity. It can creat some difficult situations. You need to assume the majority responsibility for the discipline of your son. Your husband needs to understand that he may be contributing to the issues here by using such a heavy hand with your son. The two of you need to sit down when the kids are not around and find a way to coparent without discent. That is key to making this new marriage/new melded family thing work. His case manager was someone he saw once a week at school right? You are not talking about a 1:1 or aide or you? Irregardless, many difficult child develope relationships that help them get through situations. I know that the leaving of someone trusted and well-liked would definately have an effect on my son. Not sure that the behavior would spiral, but it would have an effect nonetheless. One suggestion I have that might prove beneficial for all of you (especially since you are thinking maybe your little easy child may not be one!) is to speak to your difficult child's psychiatrist/therapist and find get into a session or two of family counseling. I think it would benefit everyone if you all sat down with someone who could make suggestions on how to blend the family with little conflict. Parenting difficult children is tough business. It can be made tougher in a blended family. It's worth fighting for. I would imagine that you have contacted difficult child's doctor about his recent downswing? What are his/her thoughts? If I had to guess, I would say it has something to do with the new situation at home. Glad you found your way to us! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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