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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 316291" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't think you're a wimpy mother at all. Our kids are hard to raise. Many are wired differently. It might be easier for you if you have him re-evaluated so you have a better idea of what you are dealing with. His early problems and continuing social problems and explosive personality (does he explode when you try to transition him from one activity to another?) are red flags for autistic spectrum disorder. Especially if he was drug exposed in utero, he is at risk. And a regular therapist or pediatrician would miss that. Ditto school. </p><p></p><p>Even when the speech problems are resolved (my child's were resolved as well) one doesn't outgrow the problem. With the right interventions, he could get a lot better and easier, if you find out the root cause of his explosiveness and give him the proper treatment. Otherwise, it's like walking up a neverending mountain. You try conventional discipline and the child doesn't respond to it because he isn't conventional and can't be parented in a conventional way. So you keep climbing, never stop, and get tired and give in. And until you know what's completely going on, you don't even know if it's BAD to give in.</p><p></p><p>If he were mine, I'd take him to a neuropsychologist. Adopted, drug exposed/alcohol affected kids (if this is your situation) are very hard to diagnose because you don't know their history or if there has been neurological damage. You have to try harder, as a parent, to find out what is wrong. I had to take my son to many professionals to get to the truth. If I hadn't, he would not have gotten so much better. </p><p></p><p>I personally don't believe this is a parenting issue. This little guy was likely born different and all that's different about him has not yet been uncovered. My own son also was taken out of Special Education but he needed it. And we fought for it. He is doing great at sixteen, is mainstreamed except for a special help study hall, and makes the high honor roll but frankly I doubt he would be if he hadn't continued his interventions. My son was adopted at two and had been exposed to you_name_it.</p><p></p><p>Good luck, whatever you decide to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 316291, member: 1550"] I don't think you're a wimpy mother at all. Our kids are hard to raise. Many are wired differently. It might be easier for you if you have him re-evaluated so you have a better idea of what you are dealing with. His early problems and continuing social problems and explosive personality (does he explode when you try to transition him from one activity to another?) are red flags for autistic spectrum disorder. Especially if he was drug exposed in utero, he is at risk. And a regular therapist or pediatrician would miss that. Ditto school. Even when the speech problems are resolved (my child's were resolved as well) one doesn't outgrow the problem. With the right interventions, he could get a lot better and easier, if you find out the root cause of his explosiveness and give him the proper treatment. Otherwise, it's like walking up a neverending mountain. You try conventional discipline and the child doesn't respond to it because he isn't conventional and can't be parented in a conventional way. So you keep climbing, never stop, and get tired and give in. And until you know what's completely going on, you don't even know if it's BAD to give in. If he were mine, I'd take him to a neuropsychologist. Adopted, drug exposed/alcohol affected kids (if this is your situation) are very hard to diagnose because you don't know their history or if there has been neurological damage. You have to try harder, as a parent, to find out what is wrong. I had to take my son to many professionals to get to the truth. If I hadn't, he would not have gotten so much better. I personally don't believe this is a parenting issue. This little guy was likely born different and all that's different about him has not yet been uncovered. My own son also was taken out of Special Education but he needed it. And we fought for it. He is doing great at sixteen, is mainstreamed except for a special help study hall, and makes the high honor roll but frankly I doubt he would be if he hadn't continued his interventions. My son was adopted at two and had been exposed to you_name_it. Good luck, whatever you decide to do. [/QUOTE]
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