<span style='font-size: 11pt'>Janet, it's hard to look back and wonder what you could have done differently. I don't think we can cure our kids. The best we can hope for is to help guide them in the right direction. Maybe the best we can hope for is that our kids aren't murderers. It sounds awful especially to those with younger kids.
I don't think we know enough about thinking disorders.
I believe with my whole heart that as mother's we have to try to help these kids regardless of whether our interventions helps, hurts or leaves them unchanged. It is almost more about us then difficult children. We can't just throw up our hands and walk away. I have tried. Most of us have tried. The truth is that the bond from mother to child is pretty close to indestructible.
I spent hours crying, days worrying and months researching my son's issues. We tried everything we thought wouldn't hurt him. I always hoped for a cure and he would be neurotypical. This is not something I can do. I am pretty sure we prevented more disability. It's hard to hang our hats on that as a success. It's all we get in our case.
I don't know if anything made a difference with Cory but I don't think you could have not tried everything possible. I hope Cory sees the light and straightens himself out. He is young enough to want a better life. We have to hang on hope that they will. Sorry you are having a bad time right now. I go through these when difficult child is swirling in negativity.
I wish we knew more. I wish we knew how to decrease the amount of collateral damage that mental illness creates in our son's thinking. One magnifies the other. I feel your pain.</span>
