and then reading some of the info on the new diagnosis Cory got really has me thinking about some things. How many of us think we have really made one iota of difference with these kids? I have chased my tail all over creation for the last 16 years trying to get Cory help. I knocked on every door I could find. I put him in every program there was and tried every medical combo suggested. Honestly I am now thinking back to a psychiatrist who told me when he was 12 that he was a sociopath and that I should just let him go into the juvy system and walk away. She may well have been right. He is turning into one. No matter what interventions I attempted to put into place, the defiant part of him led straight into conduct disorder and that led straight into antisocial PD. Doesnt matter about any other part of the whole mental health mix with medications and such if they simply will not comply. If they feel nothing is wrong with them and it is the rest of the world who has the problem...well then where do we stand? They can talk a good ball game when they want something but that is all part of their manipulation tactics. I guess there is no answer. I am probably grieving the loss of what I thought could be possibly fixed or controlled. I know now it cant. My son is a sociopath. He is no different than Ted Bundy or The Unibomber. He simply doesnt kill people. Yet. How does a parent go on knowing this?