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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 720137" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The only one who can turn his life around (thus pick up the pieces) is your son. The more you feel sorry for him, do for him, and bail him out of his own messes the less motivation he will have to change. His reality, his TRUE reality is that he doesnt have to get his act together because you will do it for him. So he is lazy about it to the tune of no consequences.</p><p></p><p>The definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and to expect a different result. Your son will stay exactly the same unless YOU and your mother stop chasing after him, doing things for him and protecting him. You can keep him out of jail (for now), but he wont stop using drugs or grow up...not with no incentive. It hasnt changed him yet. And if he keeps this up, he will end up in prison no matter what you do.</p><p></p><p>This is up to you, of course. But if nothing changes, nothing will change. I hope you start therapy to help YOU. In the end, this son hurts your entire family and doesnt seem to care how much his behavior hurts everyone.</p><p></p><p>I would try very hard to get Mother out of this. No elderly person should be a part of this stress. </p><p></p><p>Love and luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 720137, member: 1550"] The only one who can turn his life around (thus pick up the pieces) is your son. The more you feel sorry for him, do for him, and bail him out of his own messes the less motivation he will have to change. His reality, his TRUE reality is that he doesnt have to get his act together because you will do it for him. So he is lazy about it to the tune of no consequences. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and to expect a different result. Your son will stay exactly the same unless YOU and your mother stop chasing after him, doing things for him and protecting him. You can keep him out of jail (for now), but he wont stop using drugs or grow up...not with no incentive. It hasnt changed him yet. And if he keeps this up, he will end up in prison no matter what you do. This is up to you, of course. But if nothing changes, nothing will change. I hope you start therapy to help YOU. In the end, this son hurts your entire family and doesnt seem to care how much his behavior hurts everyone. I would try very hard to get Mother out of this. No elderly person should be a part of this stress. Love and luck! [/QUOTE]
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