My son has been bailed until the end of November but he has to sign a legal form to say he has declined to release the pass code for his mobile to the police, this needs to be done by Wednesday. He was arrested a month ago but has yet to seek any legal advice and just seems to be burying his head in the sand. If I try to discuss this with him he just says he doesn't want to talk about it-neither do I but I would like to have some idea about what sentence he may have to serve. I've offered to go with him but he has done nothing. It's the same with his doctor appointments. He leaves everything until the last minute and then either myself or my mum end up having to drive him often to the disruption of our own lives. He just doesn't seem to be able to manage anything. I know I (and my mum) should just let him get on with it but if we do we will end up picking up the pieces. Why do our adult children have no grasp of reality? He really does make me despair.