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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 575890" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>And yet, you say in a later post you would pay for a place for her and the child to live. One thing that I have finally learned thanks to our sessions with the interventionist we hired and working with the family therapist at the treatment center is to absolutely not say anything that you can't or won't stick to later. My husband and I were really bad at that and our difficult child took advantage of that and it led to her always pushing the boundaries.</p><p></p><p>PG, I haven't posted because I have had a hard time with this thread. I don't see any way that bringing a baby into this situation could be considered a blessing or a good thing. I truly understand what you are going through . . . more than you know. My difficult child got pregnant three years ago and we faced a similar situation. We flat out told her that we were not raising another child and not financially supporting her while she raised a child. I've never posted this before but my difficult child ended up terminating the pregnancy and I believe it was the only rational choice she could have made. </p><p></p><p>She mentioned recently that she wished she had had the baby because it might have turned her around. I asked her why there were so many children in foster care with drug addicts for a mother if having a baby was all it took to "turn things around." She didn't have an answer.</p><p></p><p>Please know that I have posted this because I care about you and don't want to see you get dragged into this situation. If you start paying for a place for her to live then you will be financially supporting her and the next thing you know you will be raising that child. Even worse . . . what about the next pregnancy, and the next . . .</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 575890, member: 1967"] And yet, you say in a later post you would pay for a place for her and the child to live. One thing that I have finally learned thanks to our sessions with the interventionist we hired and working with the family therapist at the treatment center is to absolutely not say anything that you can't or won't stick to later. My husband and I were really bad at that and our difficult child took advantage of that and it led to her always pushing the boundaries. PG, I haven't posted because I have had a hard time with this thread. I don't see any way that bringing a baby into this situation could be considered a blessing or a good thing. I truly understand what you are going through . . . more than you know. My difficult child got pregnant three years ago and we faced a similar situation. We flat out told her that we were not raising another child and not financially supporting her while she raised a child. I've never posted this before but my difficult child ended up terminating the pregnancy and I believe it was the only rational choice she could have made. She mentioned recently that she wished she had had the baby because it might have turned her around. I asked her why there were so many children in foster care with drug addicts for a mother if having a baby was all it took to "turn things around." She didn't have an answer. Please know that I have posted this because I care about you and don't want to see you get dragged into this situation. If you start paying for a place for her to live then you will be financially supporting her and the next thing you know you will be raising that child. Even worse . . . what about the next pregnancy, and the next . . . ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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