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Really struggling with mother in law and father in law and need some advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 366427" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Nandtz, this is where you get to start being a warrior mom. First I will tell you that you are the mother. They had their turn to parent and it is your right now to raise your child the way you see fit. Having difficult child makes it different. You aren't even sure how to do what with difficult child let alone defend it to someone who is judgemental. </p><p>Now, from a mom who has been there done that, stop discussing it with your in laws. It's not their business. Give them superficial updates if they ask. They will think it's your fault up until they see for themselves that he struggles. If spanking would have worked I would have beat my son but it does squat with AS. It's actually cruel and unusual punishment in my humble opinion. You have my permission to put your fingers in your ears and sing LALALALALA when they start talking about spanking. : )</p><p></p><p>Sooooo, pull up your big girl panties and take that step that means you will advocate for your child and put distance between the parents(you) and anyone else who is not supportive and understanding. Don't share everything. Find a series of responses for when in laws ask about difficult child. </p><p>It took me until m i l suggested I had Muncheusan's. that I realized I was working too hard to have in laws like/approve of my parenting. I changed my point of view that day and haven't looked back. I don't give a rat's patootie what they think and I don't share the heartbreak, pain, sadness, frustration or anger. Time has moved on and I have a good relationship with in laws but I will never forget that pain that day. </p><p></p><p>You don't owe anyone an explanation but your God, your husband, your child and yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 366427, member: 3"] Nandtz, this is where you get to start being a warrior mom. First I will tell you that you are the mother. They had their turn to parent and it is your right now to raise your child the way you see fit. Having difficult child makes it different. You aren't even sure how to do what with difficult child let alone defend it to someone who is judgemental. Now, from a mom who has been there done that, stop discussing it with your in laws. It's not their business. Give them superficial updates if they ask. They will think it's your fault up until they see for themselves that he struggles. If spanking would have worked I would have beat my son but it does squat with AS. It's actually cruel and unusual punishment in my humble opinion. You have my permission to put your fingers in your ears and sing LALALALALA when they start talking about spanking. : ) Sooooo, pull up your big girl panties and take that step that means you will advocate for your child and put distance between the parents(you) and anyone else who is not supportive and understanding. Don't share everything. Find a series of responses for when in laws ask about difficult child. It took me until m i l suggested I had Muncheusan's. that I realized I was working too hard to have in laws like/approve of my parenting. I changed my point of view that day and haven't looked back. I don't give a rat's patootie what they think and I don't share the heartbreak, pain, sadness, frustration or anger. Time has moved on and I have a good relationship with in laws but I will never forget that pain that day. You don't owe anyone an explanation but your God, your husband, your child and yourself. [/QUOTE]
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