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Really struggling with mother in law and father in law and need some advice
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 366756" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I am so sorry, Nandz.</p><p>I agree with-the others here, although it's often easier said than done.</p><p>I think the easiest thing to do is to limit contact.</p><p>They are not consistently babysitting are they? Because they'll feel like they are being used if you tell them how to discipline. Doesn't matter if you're the mom. They just won't get it. </p><p>I am assuming that these are casual get-togethers, dinners, etc. where they horn in.</p><p>I agree, spanking in this case (and with-Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids) makes things worse. It took us a long time to figure out what worked for our difficult child and it is still a struggle. Still, spanking accelerates things. My difficult child hits back. He hit back when he was 2 or 3. Actually, he hit me long b4 I ever spanked him. It just wasn't my thing.</p><p>I digress. Your Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) must understand that he has a neurological condition that hinders his emotional development, and perhaps an Learning Disability (LD) as well, and he cannot be treated as a normal child. </p><p>However, you can still discipline him in other ways, and you must be consistent. Consistency is very important. </p><p>If they spank him, for example, and then a teacher tries to discipline him, her words won't do a thing. He'll think that the strongest person wins.</p><p>It is so hard to explain to people who haven't lived through it.</p><p>Best of luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 366756, member: 3419"] I am so sorry, Nandz. I agree with-the others here, although it's often easier said than done. I think the easiest thing to do is to limit contact. They are not consistently babysitting are they? Because they'll feel like they are being used if you tell them how to discipline. Doesn't matter if you're the mom. They just won't get it. I am assuming that these are casual get-togethers, dinners, etc. where they horn in. I agree, spanking in this case (and with-Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) kids) makes things worse. It took us a long time to figure out what worked for our difficult child and it is still a struggle. Still, spanking accelerates things. My difficult child hits back. He hit back when he was 2 or 3. Actually, he hit me long b4 I ever spanked him. It just wasn't my thing. I digress. Your Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) must understand that he has a neurological condition that hinders his emotional development, and perhaps an Learning Disability (LD) as well, and he cannot be treated as a normal child. However, you can still discipline him in other ways, and you must be consistent. Consistency is very important. If they spank him, for example, and then a teacher tries to discipline him, her words won't do a thing. He'll think that the strongest person wins. It is so hard to explain to people who haven't lived through it. Best of luck. [/QUOTE]
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