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Really struggling with mother in law and father in law and need some advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 366765" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm wondering if the legal approach might work better on them. Something like, "Spanking was the way it was done in your day. And yes, it worked for you. But times have changed. Regardless of whether the changes are good or bad, we have to move with them or get into trouble. There ARE other discipline methods in use these days and we need to keep using these to be consistent. We have to use the same methods the schools do, because if we do things too differently, we undermine one another. ANd did you know? In more and more countries, it is actually against the law to spank your child. So we're making the change now, so we don't have to suddenly change later on if those laws come here."</p><p></p><p>After all, discipline is about the law. And if the law itself says, "no spanking" (or the law has a chance of saying it at some stage) then they may respect that more.</p><p></p><p>As for where it is illegal - I know it is in New Zealand, that law came in just before we went there for a holiday and so we had to take note. There is also often talk about bringing that law in here, in Australia. So if they challenge you, you have an answer ready.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 366765, member: 1991"] I'm wondering if the legal approach might work better on them. Something like, "Spanking was the way it was done in your day. And yes, it worked for you. But times have changed. Regardless of whether the changes are good or bad, we have to move with them or get into trouble. There ARE other discipline methods in use these days and we need to keep using these to be consistent. We have to use the same methods the schools do, because if we do things too differently, we undermine one another. ANd did you know? In more and more countries, it is actually against the law to spank your child. So we're making the change now, so we don't have to suddenly change later on if those laws come here." After all, discipline is about the law. And if the law itself says, "no spanking" (or the law has a chance of saying it at some stage) then they may respect that more. As for where it is illegal - I know it is in New Zealand, that law came in just before we went there for a holiday and so we had to take note. There is also often talk about bringing that law in here, in Australia. So if they challenge you, you have an answer ready. Marg [/QUOTE]
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