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Really struggling with mother in law and father in law and need some advice
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 366783" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Aw, nandz, I'm sorry. I had the same situation with my il's with difficult child when she was little...in fact, even some of my own family members thought her behavior was a direct result of bad parenting or somehow related to my divorce from her father. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Anyway, when you get to your personal breaking point you will know. Be prepared with a no nonsense response and then say what you have to say and refuse to discuss it further. I finally got to the point where I said, "You had your turn, this is mine. I know difficult child better than anyone else on this planet inside and out - if you can't follow my lead and support me, then you will not get to see difficult child. Period." This didn't completely cut down on the BS I got from exh's extended family, however, it did cut down a lot, enough that it was bearable for me. And, in fact, difficult child threw a couple of nice rage attacks when she was visiting exh's family for Thanksgiving, Easter, etc., and I had to walk exh through them to get difficult child to settle down without completely going off the wall. That finally shut them up!!! By about 11 years old, (about a year and a haf post diagnosis), they stopped questioning difficult child's need for medications and a different parenting method. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">YOU know your difficult child best. YOU are the mom, the parent. YOU decide how to parent your children and if each one has his/her own parenting needs, so be it. My mom once said, "Maybe she just needs a swift smack in the behind". I turned to her and said, "Think about that. Did it ever work in your lifetime parenting all five of us (her kids)?" and she said, "No." Case closed, lol. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Hugs, grow a thicker skin because your IL's will not be the only ones to question you over the years. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 366783, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Aw, nandz, I'm sorry. I had the same situation with my il's with difficult child when she was little...in fact, even some of my own family members thought her behavior was a direct result of bad parenting or somehow related to my divorce from her father. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Anyway, when you get to your personal breaking point you will know. Be prepared with a no nonsense response and then say what you have to say and refuse to discuss it further. I finally got to the point where I said, "You had your turn, this is mine. I know difficult child better than anyone else on this planet inside and out - if you can't follow my lead and support me, then you will not get to see difficult child. Period." This didn't completely cut down on the BS I got from exh's extended family, however, it did cut down a lot, enough that it was bearable for me. And, in fact, difficult child threw a couple of nice rage attacks when she was visiting exh's family for Thanksgiving, Easter, etc., and I had to walk exh through them to get difficult child to settle down without completely going off the wall. That finally shut them up!!! By about 11 years old, (about a year and a haf post diagnosis), they stopped questioning difficult child's need for medications and a different parenting method. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]YOU know your difficult child best. YOU are the mom, the parent. YOU decide how to parent your children and if each one has his/her own parenting needs, so be it. My mom once said, "Maybe she just needs a swift smack in the behind". I turned to her and said, "Think about that. Did it ever work in your lifetime parenting all five of us (her kids)?" and she said, "No." Case closed, lol. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Hugs, grow a thicker skin because your IL's will not be the only ones to question you over the years. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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