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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 270709" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Susan,</p><p></p><p>I am glad you were able to go to the beach and feel free. It is wonderful to hear you talk about looking for something for your sister. </p><p></p><p>Keep working on redirecting your thinking. Witz is right that your son IS living the life he CHOOSES to live. Not the live he chose, in the past tense, but the life he CHOOSES, in the present tense. </p><p></p><p>Every single minute, every single hour, every day, every week your ADULT son CHOOSES drugs over life. It IS very hard on you, I know it is. But he has POWER with this choice. He KNOWS you agonize and worry and that gives him tremendous power over YOUR life and the lives of all your other family members, esp your easy child and husband. Some part of him RELISHES that power when he thinks about y'all at all.</p><p></p><p>I think a new project would be extremely useful, esp one you can do at night. I am a HUGE testament to the fact you can cross stitch at night - for several years that was the ONLY time I could do it because toddler hands and needles don't go together so well, LOL.</p><p></p><p>Get a project, if not cross stitching then something else. ANYTHING to take your mind off of the destruction of the drugs and into something constructive. </p><p></p><p>Get a kit and stitch the Serenity Prayer. Or another prayer, or motto, or just something you find pretty. Take up painting, bake all night, whatever takes your fancy!</p><p></p><p>And keep snapping that rubber band - it takes a while but it really does help!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 270709, member: 1233"] Susan, I am glad you were able to go to the beach and feel free. It is wonderful to hear you talk about looking for something for your sister. Keep working on redirecting your thinking. Witz is right that your son IS living the life he CHOOSES to live. Not the live he chose, in the past tense, but the life he CHOOSES, in the present tense. Every single minute, every single hour, every day, every week your ADULT son CHOOSES drugs over life. It IS very hard on you, I know it is. But he has POWER with this choice. He KNOWS you agonize and worry and that gives him tremendous power over YOUR life and the lives of all your other family members, esp your easy child and husband. Some part of him RELISHES that power when he thinks about y'all at all. I think a new project would be extremely useful, esp one you can do at night. I am a HUGE testament to the fact you can cross stitch at night - for several years that was the ONLY time I could do it because toddler hands and needles don't go together so well, LOL. Get a project, if not cross stitching then something else. ANYTHING to take your mind off of the destruction of the drugs and into something constructive. Get a kit and stitch the Serenity Prayer. Or another prayer, or motto, or just something you find pretty. Take up painting, bake all night, whatever takes your fancy! And keep snapping that rubber band - it takes a while but it really does help! [/QUOTE]
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