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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 761773" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>Hi Laura, I keep up with your posts and I feel your words and emotions. You really did not have a choice, your son made the situation the way it was because of HIS abuse. With facing surgery, how on earth did he have the energy to spit all the venom on you and your husband? If he was really in that much pain don't you think he would use his energy different? You, did the absolute right thing. I can almost bet your guardian angels held you back.</p><p>I know that husbands want to fix and help us fix things. Some things cannot be fixed and the only way to lessen the toxic abuse is to get distance and lots of it.</p><p>I have to completely stop talking to my daughter at times because she is so toxic to my health, especially my spiritual health. I go through regret and guilt and then back and forth just like you are right now.</p><p>I am getting older almost 65 now, daughter will be 40 soon. She still has her youth. My emotions are so raw from fighting this non stop battle with her. My husband and I think she will be off balance forever. Like you are with your son, she is my heart and soul. I love her deeply and strongly. She will 'S' on me each chance she gets, I know this yet my love for her is always there. </p><p>My husband does not know what to do, I do not know what to do even though I have read every book you can think of, been to many therapists, and thank God for this wonderful support group that I got the most help and support from. </p><p>It's times like this that I wish I could take a nice long walk with you, listen to your broken heart about your son and let you know that you are not alone in this that many of us are traveling this wicked hard road right along side of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 761773, member: 22416"] Hi Laura, I keep up with your posts and I feel your words and emotions. You really did not have a choice, your son made the situation the way it was because of HIS abuse. With facing surgery, how on earth did he have the energy to spit all the venom on you and your husband? If he was really in that much pain don't you think he would use his energy different? You, did the absolute right thing. I can almost bet your guardian angels held you back. I know that husbands want to fix and help us fix things. Some things cannot be fixed and the only way to lessen the toxic abuse is to get distance and lots of it. I have to completely stop talking to my daughter at times because she is so toxic to my health, especially my spiritual health. I go through regret and guilt and then back and forth just like you are right now. I am getting older almost 65 now, daughter will be 40 soon. She still has her youth. My emotions are so raw from fighting this non stop battle with her. My husband and I think she will be off balance forever. Like you are with your son, she is my heart and soul. I love her deeply and strongly. She will 'S' on me each chance she gets, I know this yet my love for her is always there. My husband does not know what to do, I do not know what to do even though I have read every book you can think of, been to many therapists, and thank God for this wonderful support group that I got the most help and support from. It's times like this that I wish I could take a nice long walk with you, listen to your broken heart about your son and let you know that you are not alone in this that many of us are traveling this wicked hard road right along side of you. [/QUOTE]
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