Sorry guys if this question has been asked. My son is out of the home but has been talking about ways to get out of his situation with drugs/friends. The last time this happened I promised him rehab but when I applied to the only one our insurance covered, I told 'everything' the whole gory story (physical violence, hospitalizations, etc) and they denied him admittance saying he was beyond their level of care. They recommended a place that costs tens of thousands that we just can't afford. So we enrolled him in IOP which he quit and kinda got ok on his own for about a year but now he is kicked out and couch surfing with friends that he hadn't seen in a while. So my question - do I have him apply at the 'community' rehab in our city, as a homeless person with no resources and tell him not to give all the details of his mental illness? I don't even know if he is mentally ill or not, since the drug abuse has paralleled these issues. And I don't believe he is violent with anyone but his father. He's been a big time drug dealer (I'm talking thousands and thousands of dollars) and never gotten into any sort of physical altercation. I don't want him to be dishonest, but I do want him to get help. Any help. Any place to live if he doesn't want to live where he is - in a drug den. BUT he could be in trouble - he is known as a snitch in our town. My daughter has seen it on social media. He did have several felonies last year that strangely disappeared. His other option (and his preferred) is to go live with my brother 10 hours away. I have no idea what that would accomplish at this point. But of course he's wanting to get out of dodge. I know from last time that I can't jump in and take over on the rehab search or else I will be financially responsible and my son will expect me to run the whole show. And I've done enough of that when he was a minor. I am not physically well and saving pennies for early retirement. Thoughts?