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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 739597"><p>What Elsi said..</p><p></p><p>It sounds like you were not involved in his decisions with the legal system. He may have made a choice to testify against someone else. That's a huge decision in that world. And carries huge danger. But he didn't consult you about such an important decision? Why do you think then that he can't make decisions for himself?</p><p></p><p>My assumption then is that he's not coming to you for help making decisions but for help with money, logistics and manipulating others. Sorry but he is an addict and this is what they do. So you are agonizing unnecessarily about giving him advice. Focus on what he wants from you and your reply to that. You've decided no money. I suggest that you not interfere in his relationship with relatives. Presumably they know who he is and what he wants. Make sure they know what to expect and let those adults make their own decisions. He has put himself in danger. Whoever he lives with needs to know that.</p><p></p><p>Honesty is a necessity for treatment. I suggest that even thinking of being dishonest with himself or others will impede his recovery. Any treatment isn't a good thing. It can lead him to think that treatment won't work for him.</p><p></p><p>I can recommend that you detach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 739597"] What Elsi said.. It sounds like you were not involved in his decisions with the legal system. He may have made a choice to testify against someone else. That's a huge decision in that world. And carries huge danger. But he didn't consult you about such an important decision? Why do you think then that he can't make decisions for himself? My assumption then is that he's not coming to you for help making decisions but for help with money, logistics and manipulating others. Sorry but he is an addict and this is what they do. So you are agonizing unnecessarily about giving him advice. Focus on what he wants from you and your reply to that. You've decided no money. I suggest that you not interfere in his relationship with relatives. Presumably they know who he is and what he wants. Make sure they know what to expect and let those adults make their own decisions. He has put himself in danger. Whoever he lives with needs to know that. Honesty is a necessity for treatment. I suggest that even thinking of being dishonest with himself or others will impede his recovery. Any treatment isn't a good thing. It can lead him to think that treatment won't work for him. I can recommend that you detach. [/QUOTE]
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