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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 700483" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>So son is still waiting for background check to clear to start at Publix.</p><p>A bit nervous. He stole our car 2 weeks after his 18th birthday and we had him arrested at the advice of our insurance carrier (he was not insured). Then he did not finish his community service so there is something on his record. However, that is in Illinois and he is in Florida and according to Publix web site they do hire non violent felons and he is a long way from that so hoping he'll be okay! Sweating it out.</p><p></p><p>If he does not get that job for some odd reason (praying he does) then his roommate's daughter can give him a job at Jimmy John's since she is the manager and he can look for something better. Plan B.</p><p></p><p>He told his dad he sent me an email on Saturday so I read it. I have him blocked on my phone and FB. He said that he is sorry for all the pain he has caused me in his life and that we have always been close and he hates not to have a relationship with me. He also said he is doing good now and will continue to do good.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday he asked his dad if he could give us a FaceTime "tour" of his apartment. We did do this and all looks good. He can actually SEE the college from out in front of his apartment. He even showed us inside his fridge and freezer and behind the shower curtain. LOL</p><p></p><p>He said his roommate (Dottie) stays in her room mostly with the dog. I don't know if she's depressed or what. He said he thinks she is trying to give him privacy. </p><p></p><p>I responded to his email today after much thought. I told him he is the first person I think about when I wake up and the last person I think about when I go to sleep and I love him unconditionally but our relationship has conditions and I cannot take any more bad news. I also said that he has been sober before until he isn't, but I do not see him doing the things that are proven to help people with addiction such as going to meetings, getting a sponsor, going to church, replacing bad addictions with good addictions. I told him it is very hard to see someone you love on a destructive path for five years. I matter too. I told him I am very happy he has a nice place to live and that he is now set up for success. I told him for now we will continue doing weekly FaceTime with him.</p><p></p><p>I feel good about my response to him. I struggled with it but feel at peace with what I told him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 700483, member: 15032"] So son is still waiting for background check to clear to start at Publix. A bit nervous. He stole our car 2 weeks after his 18th birthday and we had him arrested at the advice of our insurance carrier (he was not insured). Then he did not finish his community service so there is something on his record. However, that is in Illinois and he is in Florida and according to Publix web site they do hire non violent felons and he is a long way from that so hoping he'll be okay! Sweating it out. If he does not get that job for some odd reason (praying he does) then his roommate's daughter can give him a job at Jimmy John's since she is the manager and he can look for something better. Plan B. He told his dad he sent me an email on Saturday so I read it. I have him blocked on my phone and FB. He said that he is sorry for all the pain he has caused me in his life and that we have always been close and he hates not to have a relationship with me. He also said he is doing good now and will continue to do good. Yesterday he asked his dad if he could give us a FaceTime "tour" of his apartment. We did do this and all looks good. He can actually SEE the college from out in front of his apartment. He even showed us inside his fridge and freezer and behind the shower curtain. LOL He said his roommate (Dottie) stays in her room mostly with the dog. I don't know if she's depressed or what. He said he thinks she is trying to give him privacy. I responded to his email today after much thought. I told him he is the first person I think about when I wake up and the last person I think about when I go to sleep and I love him unconditionally but our relationship has conditions and I cannot take any more bad news. I also said that he has been sober before until he isn't, but I do not see him doing the things that are proven to help people with addiction such as going to meetings, getting a sponsor, going to church, replacing bad addictions with good addictions. I told him it is very hard to see someone you love on a destructive path for five years. I matter too. I told him I am very happy he has a nice place to live and that he is now set up for success. I told him for now we will continue doing weekly FaceTime with him. I feel good about my response to him. I struggled with it but feel at peace with what I told him. [/QUOTE]
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