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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 567568" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Just a suggestion....do not allow dad to sign the Acknowledgement of Paternity at the hospital. Try to negotiate a visitation plan where he comes to your house -- without his other children -- to visit the baby during the first year or so and well as a fair child support amount (google the name of your state + "child support calculator" to find out what the state would order and offer him a slightly lower amount). </p><p></p><p>Then if he ever wants to be allowed to take your mutual baby for a visit, he will have to go to court and have a judge first order paternity (insist on DNA testing, it buys time) and then fight hard (preferrably with an attorney) to have dad's visitation restricted to times when his other children are not there.</p><p></p><p></p><p>If Dad is as wimpy as you say, he may never want to fight the court battle. You can keep your baby safe but still allow him/her to get to know dad under your supervision. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I would put your daughters in therapy and committ to never allowing them to be near his children again. As others have said, he has likely hurt them far more than you know at this point but showing them that their safety matters and that you will refuse to allow him to do it anymore is very healing. It took my kids years to recover from what Kanga did to them, and while there will always be 'scars', they are doing very well now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 567568, member: 1169"] Just a suggestion....do not allow dad to sign the Acknowledgement of Paternity at the hospital. Try to negotiate a visitation plan where he comes to your house -- without his other children -- to visit the baby during the first year or so and well as a fair child support amount (google the name of your state + "child support calculator" to find out what the state would order and offer him a slightly lower amount). Then if he ever wants to be allowed to take your mutual baby for a visit, he will have to go to court and have a judge first order paternity (insist on DNA testing, it buys time) and then fight hard (preferrably with an attorney) to have dad's visitation restricted to times when his other children are not there. If Dad is as wimpy as you say, he may never want to fight the court battle. You can keep your baby safe but still allow him/her to get to know dad under your supervision. I would put your daughters in therapy and committ to never allowing them to be near his children again. As others have said, he has likely hurt them far more than you know at this point but showing them that their safety matters and that you will refuse to allow him to do it anymore is very healing. It took my kids years to recover from what Kanga did to them, and while there will always be 'scars', they are doing very well now. [/QUOTE]
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