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<blockquote data-quote="Appleseed" data-source="post: 567628" data-attributes="member: 15646"><p>Another wealth of replies, thankyou.</p><p>I should clarify that I live in England so we have slightly different systems and services, and I haven't found a forum like this one registered in the Uk.</p><p>Anyway, from what I can glean our Social Services covers similar services to your CPS (but SS covers ALL vulnerable people in society here).</p><p></p><p>I will make a note of the issues we've encountered, I'm sure it can't hurt to have it written somewhere but I'd guess that even my posts here would be submissable.</p><p></p><p>Our legislation in the UK about paternity is possibly different, we have to register the birth within 6 weeks and there is an obligation to declare the father (where known) and I gather it can be made rather difficult for anyone who refuses to name the father.</p><p></p><p>I'm half tempted to post him a link to this thread, to show him that maybe I'm not the evil woman he perceives me as for identifying these behaviours and refusing contact. However, I doubt anything useful would come of it and I've mentioned words from the godfather which the father doesn't know about. It isn't for me to stir up that trouble so I've maintaind the confidence until now and I should continue to do so except in the oblique term written here.</p><p></p><p>I'd agree validation has been useful. I hope that my being uncertain and seeking it out is the right thing to do and I really am glad that so many of you can perceive the 'head in the sand' routine and the guilt trip/blame issues/arguments that sound like they might be the norm for such situations.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully it's all onward and upward from here!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Appleseed, post: 567628, member: 15646"] Another wealth of replies, thankyou. I should clarify that I live in England so we have slightly different systems and services, and I haven't found a forum like this one registered in the Uk. Anyway, from what I can glean our Social Services covers similar services to your CPS (but SS covers ALL vulnerable people in society here). I will make a note of the issues we've encountered, I'm sure it can't hurt to have it written somewhere but I'd guess that even my posts here would be submissable. Our legislation in the UK about paternity is possibly different, we have to register the birth within 6 weeks and there is an obligation to declare the father (where known) and I gather it can be made rather difficult for anyone who refuses to name the father. I'm half tempted to post him a link to this thread, to show him that maybe I'm not the evil woman he perceives me as for identifying these behaviours and refusing contact. However, I doubt anything useful would come of it and I've mentioned words from the godfather which the father doesn't know about. It isn't for me to stir up that trouble so I've maintaind the confidence until now and I should continue to do so except in the oblique term written here. I'd agree validation has been useful. I hope that my being uncertain and seeking it out is the right thing to do and I really am glad that so many of you can perceive the 'head in the sand' routine and the guilt trip/blame issues/arguments that sound like they might be the norm for such situations. Hopefully it's all onward and upward from here! [/QUOTE]
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