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Remind me when I plan to die to do so in the country I plan to be buried, will you?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 622170" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Lot of the work comes with living in this house. It is a family home. Just because we are currently living in it doesn't make it just our home. This was husband's granny's home just as much as it is my home. And when we are the ones currently living here, lots of it will fall on me and husband. Others will help a lot with food stuff, but I don't even want anyone else here cleaning my house. And when it will be here, I want to be involved in decision making. And all the small stuff is so small one by one that it would feel silly to ask someone drive here to help. But it accumulates. And at times like this, especially in bigger families, the things can get delicate. Keeping peace and making it smooth is my main priority. </p><p></p><p>Cremating her there and moving ashes would had been much easier task both with bureaucracy and cost, but that was not her wish. She also died unexpectedly, though she was in her mid nighties, so not that unexpected, and at her home, so that adds some bureaucracy to get her moved.</p><p></p><p>You are right, currently all the things needing to be done are taking away the time to mourn her. But I believe that time will come too. She was one extraordinary and inspirational woman and I was very fond of her. But at this point I'm an outsider and mourning belongs to her children and grandchildren. I'm stuck with lots of practicalities. We didn't meet often, but we did have our own special bond as brides married to this house and family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 622170, member: 14557"] Lot of the work comes with living in this house. It is a family home. Just because we are currently living in it doesn't make it just our home. This was husband's granny's home just as much as it is my home. And when we are the ones currently living here, lots of it will fall on me and husband. Others will help a lot with food stuff, but I don't even want anyone else here cleaning my house. And when it will be here, I want to be involved in decision making. And all the small stuff is so small one by one that it would feel silly to ask someone drive here to help. But it accumulates. And at times like this, especially in bigger families, the things can get delicate. Keeping peace and making it smooth is my main priority. Cremating her there and moving ashes would had been much easier task both with bureaucracy and cost, but that was not her wish. She also died unexpectedly, though she was in her mid nighties, so not that unexpected, and at her home, so that adds some bureaucracy to get her moved. You are right, currently all the things needing to be done are taking away the time to mourn her. But I believe that time will come too. She was one extraordinary and inspirational woman and I was very fond of her. But at this point I'm an outsider and mourning belongs to her children and grandchildren. I'm stuck with lots of practicalities. We didn't meet often, but we did have our own special bond as brides married to this house and family. [/QUOTE]
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