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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 680922" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>ksm,</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry. This all must be breaking your heart. I'm thinking the more that you fight with DGD on this issue, the further you push her away. </p><p></p><p>I wouldn't ordinarily say that you should allow a minor to self-destruct this way, but your case seems to be different to me. Having biomom in town really throws a monky wrench into your lives.</p><p></p><p>It may be a good idea for you to contact a family law attorney. Since you are legally her mother, what repercussions will fall on you if she moves in with biomom? Have you actually spoken to biomom? Is there any chance that biomom really doesn't want the girls living with her? Is there any chance that biomom might agree with you about the older boyfriend? It might be worth having a powwow with her. Maybe, just maybe, she is older and wiser and can wrap her mind around the inappropriate part of the boyfriend.</p><p></p><p>The other thing that I think you really need to hear is that DGD may be pulling away from you now, sowing her oats. I honestly believe that after she experiences life with biomom, that she will realize how much she misses the stability, those rules that she now hates, and the love that you have provided her. At 15, she doesn't yet understand how those infernal rules are meant to keep her safe. All she sees is the restrictions on her freedom. She is too young to comprehend the necessity. She doesn't understand yet about guys using girls. She doesn't understand how she is ruining her own future. </p><p></p><p>Argh. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/919Mad.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":919Mad:" title="Mad :919Mad:" data-shortname=":919Mad:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 680922, member: 11832"] ksm, I'm so sorry. This all must be breaking your heart. I'm thinking the more that you fight with DGD on this issue, the further you push her away. I wouldn't ordinarily say that you should allow a minor to self-destruct this way, but your case seems to be different to me. Having biomom in town really throws a monky wrench into your lives. It may be a good idea for you to contact a family law attorney. Since you are legally her mother, what repercussions will fall on you if she moves in with biomom? Have you actually spoken to biomom? Is there any chance that biomom really doesn't want the girls living with her? Is there any chance that biomom might agree with you about the older boyfriend? It might be worth having a powwow with her. Maybe, just maybe, she is older and wiser and can wrap her mind around the inappropriate part of the boyfriend. The other thing that I think you really need to hear is that DGD may be pulling away from you now, sowing her oats. I honestly believe that after she experiences life with biomom, that she will realize how much she misses the stability, those rules that she now hates, and the love that you have provided her. At 15, she doesn't yet understand how those infernal rules are meant to keep her safe. All she sees is the restrictions on her freedom. She is too young to comprehend the necessity. She doesn't understand yet about guys using girls. She doesn't understand how she is ruining her own future. Argh. :919Mad: [/QUOTE]
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