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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 472780" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>These are the times that we have to let our mommy head rule over our mommy heart. It's tough and hurts like koi. My son is on his second stint in Department of Juvenile Justice- both committing offenses were using a knife to rob me, although he'd had lesser offenses of different types that had landed him on probation before that. It has killed me emotionally. But it doesn't hurt as bad as it would hurt if he was living at home and continuing to rob me, or others girlfriend, or otherwise getting reinforcement (by lack of consequences) that he can grow up and be physically intimidating or abusive to a female. It doesn't feel as bad as thinking he's about to kill me and his future will be spent behind bars knowing that he killed his mother. It at least gives me one very small drop of hope that maybe someday he'll turn around before he really does actually physically harm someone, and oddly enough, so far he isn't legally classified as a violent offender. It doesn't ever get easy. It does get easier. But doing what I knew I had to do leaves me feeling a tad better than I'd feel if I just did what I wanted to do, knowing it couldn't possibly be what is best for difficult child or anyone.</p><p></p><p>I know this won't make you feel better right now, but I tried everything in the world to get my son in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and had him accepted but the court ruled Department of Juvenile Justice instead. You and your son have no idea how lucky you are that he's going to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) instead of Department of Juvenile Justice. Maybe you can find a little comfort at some point to know that it could be worse.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p><p></p><p>I'm going thru something similar now- I have to either refuse my son coming home in order for him to have half a chance of a transitional group home, or I can welcome him home with open arms and see if he pulls a knife on me a 3rd time.</p><p></p><p>Remember, our choices aren't "send the kid away or stay at home with the kid being a easy child" and we parents didn't cause or create the choice we have. Our choices are "continue with this getting worse, or do something that will save everyone's safety and might possibly help the kid and save the kid from doing something worse". We didn't get to choose those choices; but we are tasked with making the choice.</p><p></p><p>I'll share my warrior mom armour with you. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 472780, member: 3699"] These are the times that we have to let our mommy head rule over our mommy heart. It's tough and hurts like koi. My son is on his second stint in Department of Juvenile Justice- both committing offenses were using a knife to rob me, although he'd had lesser offenses of different types that had landed him on probation before that. It has killed me emotionally. But it doesn't hurt as bad as it would hurt if he was living at home and continuing to rob me, or others girlfriend, or otherwise getting reinforcement (by lack of consequences) that he can grow up and be physically intimidating or abusive to a female. It doesn't feel as bad as thinking he's about to kill me and his future will be spent behind bars knowing that he killed his mother. It at least gives me one very small drop of hope that maybe someday he'll turn around before he really does actually physically harm someone, and oddly enough, so far he isn't legally classified as a violent offender. It doesn't ever get easy. It does get easier. But doing what I knew I had to do leaves me feeling a tad better than I'd feel if I just did what I wanted to do, knowing it couldn't possibly be what is best for difficult child or anyone. I know this won't make you feel better right now, but I tried everything in the world to get my son in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and had him accepted but the court ruled Department of Juvenile Justice instead. You and your son have no idea how lucky you are that he's going to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) instead of Department of Juvenile Justice. Maybe you can find a little comfort at some point to know that it could be worse. ((HUGS)) I'm going thru something similar now- I have to either refuse my son coming home in order for him to have half a chance of a transitional group home, or I can welcome him home with open arms and see if he pulls a knife on me a 3rd time. Remember, our choices aren't "send the kid away or stay at home with the kid being a easy child" and we parents didn't cause or create the choice we have. Our choices are "continue with this getting worse, or do something that will save everyone's safety and might possibly help the kid and save the kid from doing something worse". We didn't get to choose those choices; but we are tasked with making the choice. I'll share my warrior mom armour with you. :) [/QUOTE]
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