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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 235735" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Sounds exactly, I mean exactly, what I've dealt with over the last 13 or 14 years with B. Wow. I'm sorry, J.</p><p></p><p>Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), in my experience, really isn't helpful. I know that's probably a horrible thing to say. Wait, I'll change that. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is helpful for children that recognize they have a problem, *want* to make the change, and are able/willing/ready to make the change. If you don't have that, you got nothin'.</p><p></p><p>I've had 2 kids in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). B has been in 3, Dylan spent 8 months in one, from Sept of 07 to May of 08. Within a week of Dylan's admission, they had his discharge date, and had told him. Ditto with B, twice out of the 3. </p><p></p><p>There's different types of Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), of course. The one Dylan was in, it wasn't helpful for him. I wish I knew more prior to putting him in, because they were not what he needed. They were a behavior modification type Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). So, they were good for kids who never had discipline and needed to learn how to listen. But, they aren't good for children that have true mental illness. You have college kids working in the house with the kids, that may or may not remember to write down the issues of the day/evening for all 9 kids. Then, the therapist for all the kids goes and grabs their charts, to read up on what the staff may or may not have written down. Then the therapist reports what she can to the psychiatrist, who might give her 15 minutes to run down all the children. Then the psychiatrist spends 10 minutes once a month with your child and, basically, copycats whatever the psychiatric evaluation is that your child comes in with.</p><p></p><p>I had to stay on this Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) like flies on poop. Seriously. One time, Dylan was hallucinating from a medication (Luvox, an antidepressant, that he did NOT belong on LOL) - smearing feces all over the wall in the bathroom. Staff calls me. Tells me. Forgets to write it down. Never gets to therapist. Never gets to psychiatrist. If I wouldn't have known.....You really, really need to stay on top of EVERYTHING. I'm sure you do.</p><p></p><p>All 4 Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)'s I've dealt with have been bogus. If the child does well there, they assume it's issues with parenting, family stressors, other kids in the household, whatever. It's never just THE KID. They never stop and think, hey, this CHILD is disrupting the entire family and what can we do? No. They want to jam family therapy down your throat. I fully, adamantly always refuse family therapies. Unless you feel like your entire family is falling apart, they need to work on the child.</p><p></p><p>So, do they have a treatment plan? What, exactly is the plan? When is the discharge date? What if she's not ready at the discharge date? </p><p></p><p>They tried to be slick with Dylan. I let em have it, and just brought him home. I mean, if the place isn't going to do what you need it to, what is the purpose? So, what they said to me was, if you're not ready to have him home, we can put him in "theraputic" foster care! LMAO! Hey, I dunno, J, if you remember the nightmare I went through with Brandon and "theraputic" foster care, but that wasn't an option here. So, maybe that's what your Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is thinking? </p><p></p><p>Interestingly enough, I spoke recently with a director at a very reputable Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) about 2 hours from me a few weeks ago. Not for any of my children, but for something I'm doing for school. He said to me, ANY Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) that would give you a discharge date up front, I'd stay away from. To me, that's good advice (and his agency doesn't do that).</p><p></p><p>I wish I had advice for you, but I've been burned by so many that I have nothing but negativity for them. I wish you alot of luck, though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 235735, member: 2737"] Sounds exactly, I mean exactly, what I've dealt with over the last 13 or 14 years with B. Wow. I'm sorry, J. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), in my experience, really isn't helpful. I know that's probably a horrible thing to say. Wait, I'll change that. Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is helpful for children that recognize they have a problem, *want* to make the change, and are able/willing/ready to make the change. If you don't have that, you got nothin'. I've had 2 kids in Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). B has been in 3, Dylan spent 8 months in one, from Sept of 07 to May of 08. Within a week of Dylan's admission, they had his discharge date, and had told him. Ditto with B, twice out of the 3. There's different types of Residential Treatment Facility (RTF), of course. The one Dylan was in, it wasn't helpful for him. I wish I knew more prior to putting him in, because they were not what he needed. They were a behavior modification type Residential Treatment Facility (RTF). So, they were good for kids who never had discipline and needed to learn how to listen. But, they aren't good for children that have true mental illness. You have college kids working in the house with the kids, that may or may not remember to write down the issues of the day/evening for all 9 kids. Then, the therapist for all the kids goes and grabs their charts, to read up on what the staff may or may not have written down. Then the therapist reports what she can to the psychiatrist, who might give her 15 minutes to run down all the children. Then the psychiatrist spends 10 minutes once a month with your child and, basically, copycats whatever the psychiatric evaluation is that your child comes in with. I had to stay on this Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) like flies on poop. Seriously. One time, Dylan was hallucinating from a medication (Luvox, an antidepressant, that he did NOT belong on LOL) - smearing feces all over the wall in the bathroom. Staff calls me. Tells me. Forgets to write it down. Never gets to therapist. Never gets to psychiatrist. If I wouldn't have known.....You really, really need to stay on top of EVERYTHING. I'm sure you do. All 4 Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)'s I've dealt with have been bogus. If the child does well there, they assume it's issues with parenting, family stressors, other kids in the household, whatever. It's never just THE KID. They never stop and think, hey, this CHILD is disrupting the entire family and what can we do? No. They want to jam family therapy down your throat. I fully, adamantly always refuse family therapies. Unless you feel like your entire family is falling apart, they need to work on the child. So, do they have a treatment plan? What, exactly is the plan? When is the discharge date? What if she's not ready at the discharge date? They tried to be slick with Dylan. I let em have it, and just brought him home. I mean, if the place isn't going to do what you need it to, what is the purpose? So, what they said to me was, if you're not ready to have him home, we can put him in "theraputic" foster care! LMAO! Hey, I dunno, J, if you remember the nightmare I went through with Brandon and "theraputic" foster care, but that wasn't an option here. So, maybe that's what your Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) is thinking? Interestingly enough, I spoke recently with a director at a very reputable Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) about 2 hours from me a few weeks ago. Not for any of my children, but for something I'm doing for school. He said to me, ANY Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) that would give you a discharge date up front, I'd stay away from. To me, that's good advice (and his agency doesn't do that). I wish I had advice for you, but I've been burned by so many that I have nothing but negativity for them. I wish you alot of luck, though. [/QUOTE]
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