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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 288108" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you all! It's amazing how, even after so many years, things I learned in therapy about dysfunctional families and communicating and other stuff to try to "break this chain" comes back to me. That is very helpful. My memory for today is about the "roles" kids get placed into or get into when being raised in a dysfunctional family. You know- the "scapegoat" or the "victim" or the "manipulator", "bad kid", "fixer", etc. I know I can't completely break this cycle that gets passed from one generation to another with difficult child, but I am doing my best to raise him healthier. In some ways, I think I have but in others I must not be doing too well or he wouldn't be where he is.I don't think my family can help with that though ao I don't think I'd ever go to any of them for advice on child-rearing. LOL! To hear my mother, well, she says she knows what mistakes she made with me so now I should listen to her. This is a woman who made me stay in a 3'x5' walk-in closet for hours on end on more than one occassion when I was under the age of 6yo - while she and my half-bro (not her bio-son) "cleaned house", as I was told. Is that normal?</p><p></p><p>I've been involved in other things all afternoon and getting ready to try to grill something before dark, so I'm good! </p><p></p><p>I really do appreciate you ladies reading my vents when they come up and being supportive!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 288108, member: 3699"] Thank you all! It's amazing how, even after so many years, things I learned in therapy about dysfunctional families and communicating and other stuff to try to "break this chain" comes back to me. That is very helpful. My memory for today is about the "roles" kids get placed into or get into when being raised in a dysfunctional family. You know- the "scapegoat" or the "victim" or the "manipulator", "bad kid", "fixer", etc. I know I can't completely break this cycle that gets passed from one generation to another with difficult child, but I am doing my best to raise him healthier. In some ways, I think I have but in others I must not be doing too well or he wouldn't be where he is.I don't think my family can help with that though ao I don't think I'd ever go to any of them for advice on child-rearing. LOL! To hear my mother, well, she says she knows what mistakes she made with me so now I should listen to her. This is a woman who made me stay in a 3'x5' walk-in closet for hours on end on more than one occassion when I was under the age of 6yo - while she and my half-bro (not her bio-son) "cleaned house", as I was told. Is that normal? I've been involved in other things all afternoon and getting ready to try to grill something before dark, so I'm good! I really do appreciate you ladies reading my vents when they come up and being supportive! [/QUOTE]
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