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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 386929" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's tricky, because a lot of it is caught up with an extreme sense of justice. "You did A, therefore I get to do B back."</p><p></p><p>Social stories can help, if he takes it on board. But maybe what you need to do is take away the blame factor. We found that once you pull back from finding where responsibilities lies, it's easier for the child (eventually!) to get that sometimes bad things happen to good people and it's nobody's fault. Or it was an accident and the person who did it already feels bad (ie is already being punished, worse than anything you could do).</p><p></p><p>It really takes a lot of social sophistication for someone to learn that the tit-for-tat stops here.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 386929, member: 1991"] It's tricky, because a lot of it is caught up with an extreme sense of justice. "You did A, therefore I get to do B back." Social stories can help, if he takes it on board. But maybe what you need to do is take away the blame factor. We found that once you pull back from finding where responsibilities lies, it's easier for the child (eventually!) to get that sometimes bad things happen to good people and it's nobody's fault. Or it was an accident and the person who did it already feels bad (ie is already being punished, worse than anything you could do). It really takes a lot of social sophistication for someone to learn that the tit-for-tat stops here. Marg [/QUOTE]
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