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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 706386" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Is she adopted or was there early loss of a caregiver attachment in her life early on?</p><p></p><p> She sounds like a child we adopted who hurt our animals and eventually killed two. He also did many other things such as pee and poop all over (We thought it was the dogs), sexually act out in perverted ways on younger kids (the young ones were too terrified of him to tell us until we had him removed), stole, lied, yet smiled sweetly at all adults and even charmed psychiatrists.</p><p></p><p>This child was a foster/adopt. We didn't know he touched our younger kids and had killed our dogs until he left. We thought the dogs were killed by "racist" neighbors because he said our neighbors called him derogatory racial names. It wasn't true. He finally got caught and his facade in all areas fell apart. Can't tell you the degree of our guilt. Stll.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of what is wrong with your daughter clinically, if you love your dogs you can't keep them and her in the same home. It is cruel to them and they are helpless. It doesn't matter if you saw her hurt the animals. You know she did do it. Nobody else did it and she keeps doing it. The dogs deserve safety.</p><p></p><p>Cruelty to animals is a very serious psychological symptom. Almost all serial killers do it as children. Not saying AT ALL that she will become one but harming animals means she could also harm to weaker.people, even.if not yet caught. It is a symptom of deep disturbance.</p><p></p><p> If you have other kids...well...not a good idea to house them together even if she is nice to them in front of you and your younger ones deny she harms them. They could be scared, like mine. We didn't ask though. He acted so nice in front of us we didn't guess and did not think he hurt the animals. He acted lovey dovey toward our pets around us. Great actor was he.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Knowing what I now know, I'd want your daughter, if she were mine, to live elsewhere while getting help, like residential treatment. There is no way I'd keep her home unless all the dogs and other pets are rehomed. And I'd keep alarms on her bedroom door and front door and not leave her alone. Not for a minute. Not as long as there are dogs around.</p><p></p><p>Our adopted son fooled every mental health professional. Everyone was shocked when, in residential treatment, he not only admitted it with no remorse but proceeded to go after a peer in the bathroom.</p><p></p><p>Be safe. You are legally responsible for anyone or any animal she hurts. And our child killed a few neighbor pets but we didn't figure it out until much later.</p><p></p><p>We don't see this child anymore. We are afraid of him...he was 13 when he left and is 23 now. We have nothing against adopted kids and have three we would take bullets for. They are our everything. This one particular boy was hurting them and our pets and others on the neighborhood. He should never have been put into a family setting.</p><p></p><p>We got him at age 11, but any age child with early insecure attachment or abuse can have attachment disorder. And it means no conscience.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry and know the horror.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 706386, member: 1550"] Is she adopted or was there early loss of a caregiver attachment in her life early on? She sounds like a child we adopted who hurt our animals and eventually killed two. He also did many other things such as pee and poop all over (We thought it was the dogs), sexually act out in perverted ways on younger kids (the young ones were too terrified of him to tell us until we had him removed), stole, lied, yet smiled sweetly at all adults and even charmed psychiatrists. This child was a foster/adopt. We didn't know he touched our younger kids and had killed our dogs until he left. We thought the dogs were killed by "racist" neighbors because he said our neighbors called him derogatory racial names. It wasn't true. He finally got caught and his facade in all areas fell apart. Can't tell you the degree of our guilt. Stll. Regardless of what is wrong with your daughter clinically, if you love your dogs you can't keep them and her in the same home. It is cruel to them and they are helpless. It doesn't matter if you saw her hurt the animals. You know she did do it. Nobody else did it and she keeps doing it. The dogs deserve safety. Cruelty to animals is a very serious psychological symptom. Almost all serial killers do it as children. Not saying AT ALL that she will become one but harming animals means she could also harm to weaker.people, even.if not yet caught. It is a symptom of deep disturbance. If you have other kids...well...not a good idea to house them together even if she is nice to them in front of you and your younger ones deny she harms them. They could be scared, like mine. We didn't ask though. He acted so nice in front of us we didn't guess and did not think he hurt the animals. He acted lovey dovey toward our pets around us. Great actor was he. Knowing what I now know, I'd want your daughter, if she were mine, to live elsewhere while getting help, like residential treatment. There is no way I'd keep her home unless all the dogs and other pets are rehomed. And I'd keep alarms on her bedroom door and front door and not leave her alone. Not for a minute. Not as long as there are dogs around. Our adopted son fooled every mental health professional. Everyone was shocked when, in residential treatment, he not only admitted it with no remorse but proceeded to go after a peer in the bathroom. Be safe. You are legally responsible for anyone or any animal she hurts. And our child killed a few neighbor pets but we didn't figure it out until much later. We don't see this child anymore. We are afraid of him...he was 13 when he left and is 23 now. We have nothing against adopted kids and have three we would take bullets for. They are our everything. This one particular boy was hurting them and our pets and others on the neighborhood. He should never have been put into a family setting. We got him at age 11, but any age child with early insecure attachment or abuse can have attachment disorder. And it means no conscience. I am so sorry and know the horror. [/QUOTE]
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