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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 428683" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Susie--</p><p> </p><p>I know that you have recommended making a difficult child pay for someone to do their chores by pawning their things many times on this board....and I do think it is a novel idea.</p><p> </p><p>I have not tried that because it feeds too much into difficult child's self-image of an abused child with cold, cruel parents.</p><p> </p><p>Right now, difficult child loves to tell people "O poor me! My parents refuse to buy ____________________."</p><p> </p><p>You would be AMAZED at the well-meaning folks who well step forward to provide that item for difficult child! This year alone, difficult child was able to get a teacher to buy school supplies for her (nevermind that I had a stockpile of things I had gotten on sale just waiting and ready to use!), almost a whole wardrobe from a friend's Mom (including lingerie!), a new radio, a scientific calculator, tons of food...and the list goes on. </p><p> </p><p>I fear that anything I might pawn just becomes another chapter in the "O Poor Me!" sob story that difficult child tells everyone. Let's say I pawn the new radio. O poor me! My parents took away my radio! And next thing you know....difficult child comes home with an even bigger and better radio from yet another well-meaning person.</p><p> </p><p>So rather than lesson learned, it becomes another exercise in scamming a way around the parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 428683, member: 6546"] Susie-- I know that you have recommended making a difficult child pay for someone to do their chores by pawning their things many times on this board....and I do think it is a novel idea. I have not tried that because it feeds too much into difficult child's self-image of an abused child with cold, cruel parents. Right now, difficult child loves to tell people "O poor me! My parents refuse to buy ____________________." You would be AMAZED at the well-meaning folks who well step forward to provide that item for difficult child! This year alone, difficult child was able to get a teacher to buy school supplies for her (nevermind that I had a stockpile of things I had gotten on sale just waiting and ready to use!), almost a whole wardrobe from a friend's Mom (including lingerie!), a new radio, a scientific calculator, tons of food...and the list goes on. I fear that anything I might pawn just becomes another chapter in the "O Poor Me!" sob story that difficult child tells everyone. Let's say I pawn the new radio. O poor me! My parents took away my radio! And next thing you know....difficult child comes home with an even bigger and better radio from yet another well-meaning person. So rather than lesson learned, it becomes another exercise in scamming a way around the parents. [/QUOTE]
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