difficult child's birthday party was this weekend....so the chaos started on Friday. On Friday, difficult child was really upset because her day did not go the way she wanted. Her hair didn't stay styled. Someone criticized her fantastic singing voice. AND an acquantaince (who suffers from depression) had the nerve to be in a bad mood. How DARE these things happen when difficult child was expecting gifts and celebrations at school! On Saturday, difficult child was upset that she had to spend more than $8 to purchase food for her party. What do you mean I have to buy drinks and snacks? My friends don't eat very much - can't they just do without??? On Sunday, difficult child was upset because Mom didn't make arrangements to take difficult child to the mall. Doesn't Mom know that difficult child wanted to go shopping? How DARE she not drop everything for difficult child! and, o yeah, she forgot it was Mother's Day....so Happy Mother's Day - now why can't we go to the mall? Monday - our MST worker, Ms Ally came to the house to meet with husband and I. We had a discussion that, essentially, my parenting style is too "wimpy" - that I am not requiring enough of difficult child. My position is that it is not worth my sanity to go 20 rounds over dirty dishes night after night after night - I would rather wash them myself and have a peaceful evening. But husband and Ms Ally agreed that something has to change around here and that difficult child needs to take on more responsibilty for household chores. Well, great. And since Ms Ally does not live here and husband works very long hours - guess who gets to enforce this new policy? Yep - ME. So, difficult child arrived home from school in a bad mood because her friend with depression still hasn't "gotten over it".....and husband launches into a speech about how difficult child is 16 now and needs to start taking some responsibility. With that, he sits her down at the computer and begins prompting her to fill out online job applications. "OK - here you go....put your name here...and the address...do you have your references?" etc etc difficult child is none too happy...so when dinner was ready difficult child exited out of the application and shut down the computer. When dinner was over, she went quickly to her bedroom and began playing music very loudly. Chores? Undone. husband was angry - but said nothing... Until the boyfriend called at 8. husband answered the phone and told boyfriend that difficult child may not come to the phone because she had not done her chores. A rage ensued. difficult child screamed and growled and called husband names and told him "You know better than to mess with me!!!!" This went on for about 40 minutes...and then started all over again when the phone rang again at 8:45. So everybody is upset - but we all need our sleep....so after difficult child seems to be settled...we go to bed. First thing this morning, husband tells difficult child he wants to talk to her. He APOLOGIZED to her for last night. WTH????? He's SORRY????? And basically their conversation was that now WE have ruined difficult child's whole day...and anyway....she KNOWS this new policy is all MOM's idea and the whole thing is ALL MOM'S FAULT! So....guess who gets to deal with the aftermath when difficult child arrives home after a day of B*tchin and Moanin to her friends about what horrible abusive parents we are and how we need to be killed? That's right... ME! Well great. This should be JUST wonderful!