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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 530416" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>That kind of thing just breaks a mommy's heart. It is so hard. It is so common for a change like that to upset a kid who has the kinds of traits you say V has. Do you have a weekly schedule too? One strategy to use is to make a certain color "change" card. So when that card shows up it means there is a change in the schedule. On a schedule/calendar you might highlight or tape a little paper of that color over the place where the change happens and you write the new things on it. For his picture schedule you can add the color card which might be cut a little bigger than the new picture so when taped behind it, it will highlight the picture. </p><p></p><p>Then go through it the night before so it has time to process. </p><p></p><p>The trick to it is to do little changes using this procedure on and off thru a day, week, month so that when a real change happens you have practiced how to cope with the change. Practice blowing out the candles on your hand (holding up the 5 fingers and blowing for deep breathing, or squishing a therapy ball or theraputty, etc.) </p><p></p><p>When younger my son would have done the exact same, would have been upset about the change, but now he is more focused on the number and would have expected it or been very upset if he didn't get his make up day if he knows he gets two a week. Crazy how things can morph like that. There is always something, right? </p><p></p><p>Dont feel badly you followed through, if he is fine now, then you got a dose of what even parents of typical kids go through. Lots of kids fall apart when dropped off at daycare. They generally recover quickly. I hope that is it for him, that it doesn't carry over to later on in the day. You supplied them with great tools and at some point he has to go through some of these challenges to learn how to cope with them. He sounds like he is in such a safe and nurturing place (as are you) so they can support and encourage him (and you again, smile). I like to hear that. I worked in a school once where we often heard, we are so glad he/she did that here so we could help them work through it. We all would rather they made mistakes with people who gave them a soft place to land, a chance to learn with loving support....before they grow up and hit the big mean streets! I think you did just great and in the end, so did he.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 530416, member: 12886"] That kind of thing just breaks a mommy's heart. It is so hard. It is so common for a change like that to upset a kid who has the kinds of traits you say V has. Do you have a weekly schedule too? One strategy to use is to make a certain color "change" card. So when that card shows up it means there is a change in the schedule. On a schedule/calendar you might highlight or tape a little paper of that color over the place where the change happens and you write the new things on it. For his picture schedule you can add the color card which might be cut a little bigger than the new picture so when taped behind it, it will highlight the picture. Then go through it the night before so it has time to process. The trick to it is to do little changes using this procedure on and off thru a day, week, month so that when a real change happens you have practiced how to cope with the change. Practice blowing out the candles on your hand (holding up the 5 fingers and blowing for deep breathing, or squishing a therapy ball or theraputty, etc.) When younger my son would have done the exact same, would have been upset about the change, but now he is more focused on the number and would have expected it or been very upset if he didn't get his make up day if he knows he gets two a week. Crazy how things can morph like that. There is always something, right? Dont feel badly you followed through, if he is fine now, then you got a dose of what even parents of typical kids go through. Lots of kids fall apart when dropped off at daycare. They generally recover quickly. I hope that is it for him, that it doesn't carry over to later on in the day. You supplied them with great tools and at some point he has to go through some of these challenges to learn how to cope with them. He sounds like he is in such a safe and nurturing place (as are you) so they can support and encourage him (and you again, smile). I like to hear that. I worked in a school once where we often heard, we are so glad he/she did that here so we could help them work through it. We all would rather they made mistakes with people who gave them a soft place to land, a chance to learn with loving support....before they grow up and hit the big mean streets! I think you did just great and in the end, so did he. [/QUOTE]
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