Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Rough night
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 419592" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I just went back and read all your other posts. My husband is home today (rostered day off). I wish you could have a husband like mine. He also has had a hot temper issue, but knows he needs to work on it and does. He is also an active (although fairly silent) member of this forum.</p><p></p><p>I just talked to husband about your situation. He said that your husband sounds like he has his own mental health issues and if he doesn't get it, you need to get yourself and your children to safety. I said you already had a bag packed and some papers stashed, he asked what was keeping you there. I said, you're probably waiting for things to come together for you - have to have somewhere to go, for example.</p><p></p><p>But he is right, in my mind. You need to get yourself to somewhere safe. I explained to my husband about the need to plan an exit properly so you can stay exited. He is worried for you.</p><p></p><p>i just thought I would share that - a bloke's perspective. So it's not just other women telling you that you need to make yourself and your children safe.</p><p></p><p>There is always the chance that your husband will realise how much you all mean to him, and take your departure as a sign that he needs to make some changes in his attitude. Leaving doesn't mean that it's automatic divorce. But you do owe it to your children to give them security and safety. They also need to see their mother being respected. it is very bad for children to see disrespect allowed to happen towards either of their parents. It also teaches the kids to treat those same parents with contempt - a bad habit that is very difficult to break.</p><p></p><p>Your husband sounds very insecure in his controlling ways. Sad, really - because if he could only relax a little he would realise that if you have to assert control over someone in order to keep them with you, you have already lost them.</p><p></p><p>I think it was Erich Segal (author of "Love Story" who said, "If you love something, set it free. if it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn't come back to you, it never was yours."</p><p></p><p>Stay safe.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 419592, member: 1991"] I just went back and read all your other posts. My husband is home today (rostered day off). I wish you could have a husband like mine. He also has had a hot temper issue, but knows he needs to work on it and does. He is also an active (although fairly silent) member of this forum. I just talked to husband about your situation. He said that your husband sounds like he has his own mental health issues and if he doesn't get it, you need to get yourself and your children to safety. I said you already had a bag packed and some papers stashed, he asked what was keeping you there. I said, you're probably waiting for things to come together for you - have to have somewhere to go, for example. But he is right, in my mind. You need to get yourself to somewhere safe. I explained to my husband about the need to plan an exit properly so you can stay exited. He is worried for you. i just thought I would share that - a bloke's perspective. So it's not just other women telling you that you need to make yourself and your children safe. There is always the chance that your husband will realise how much you all mean to him, and take your departure as a sign that he needs to make some changes in his attitude. Leaving doesn't mean that it's automatic divorce. But you do owe it to your children to give them security and safety. They also need to see their mother being respected. it is very bad for children to see disrespect allowed to happen towards either of their parents. It also teaches the kids to treat those same parents with contempt - a bad habit that is very difficult to break. Your husband sounds very insecure in his controlling ways. Sad, really - because if he could only relax a little he would realise that if you have to assert control over someone in order to keep them with you, you have already lost them. I think it was Erich Segal (author of "Love Story" who said, "If you love something, set it free. if it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn't come back to you, it never was yours." Stay safe. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Rough night
Top